The Diva Cup and Vaginismus

[restlesspoetry.livejournal.com]

Hey everyone,

a question regarding the Diva Cup coming your way!

I have non diagnosed Vaginismus. Basically anything bigger than a finger hurts to put in my vagina. It goes in, but it hurts like you wouldn't believe. I use OB tampons because they're small (the super size is smaller than your generic plastic applicator tampon of normal size), but I really love the idea of a Diva Cup, especially since I can't go bigger than super size OBs which means I have to run to the bathroom every few hours because I'm a heavy bleeder.

I'm just wondering if anybody with similar issues have one and can actually use it. I know you fold it when you put it in, so I don't think that would be that much of a problem, but I also read that to get it out you may have to stick a finger up and break the seal. And well, I can barely get two fingers up there to begin with, so I'm wondering if it would be stupid of me to think I can use one, seeing as a Diva Cup and a finger most likely is bigger than two fingers.

Do I make any sense? Anyone in my situation that has one?

Comments

[poppleshatesyou.livejournal.com]

I second the suggestion of asking this at menstrual_cups.
But in my personally opinion i'm not sure a cup would work for you. Does it really really hurt you to pull out a fully soaked OB tampon?? (since i know how much they can expand horizontally) Because if so i really think a cup might hurt for you too use. But definitely ask this question in the cup community, plus take a look at all their tags and what not, they have loads of helpful information specifically about menstrual cups.

[poppleshatesyou.livejournal.com]

er personal opinion too. durrr, apparently i should be more awake before typing.

[restlesspoetry.livejournal.com]

Well it's the insertion that is the hardest thing with tampons. If they're soaked they don't hurt THAT much to get out, and I really prefer fewer bad moments pulling them out (since I can use a super with OB and not with a "regular" tampon), than a more frequent insertion pain with a regular tampon.

[poppleshatesyou.livejournal.com]

well..a folded up cup..i'm pretty sure no matter which fold you may be using, would still be bigger then a tampon. But with lube or something it could maybe not hurt so much. Do you have a lot of pain with sex as well?
Good news if you do end up trying the diva cup and it doesn't work out, they have a 1 year warranty (from the website, if you keep the receipts and what not, and don't cut off the stem, i believe.) so you could get your money back. All this info is on their website. (http://www.divacup.com)

[restlesspoetry.livejournal.com]

I don't really have penetrative sex at all. My husband is trans and is pretty happy with strap-on-less sex, so we're still happy sexually. But yeah, I haven't had painless penetrative sex for years. How big is a folded up cup?

[poppleshatesyou.livejournal.com]

This images of are of a Keeper and not of a Diva but they give you an idea of the folds and the sizes. Folding techniques (http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/453392.html)

[asunlitrose.livejournal.com]

I'm on my first cycle so I'm still learning, but I would try out menstrual_cups too. To me, the punch down fold is as big as a super tampon, and I can't stick a finger up to break the seal either. Instead I pinch the bottom of the cup and move the bottom a little bit to break the seal. It's worked so far. To help insertion I've also applied glycerin-free lube to the lady bits to make it go smoother. It's worked so far. Good luck! I really like mine.