vaginapagina | some sexual orientation question... (Reply)

Last night I had an in depth chat with an online friend of mine, whom I am probably meeting next summer. Sex being the main activity during her stay here. I asked her about it, since she knows I am bi but she's never said anything about her own orientation yet she's so willingly agreeing to gay sex.

She said she was straight, but upon further questioning she's actually quite conufsed and I can see why. I also have some broader questions about sexual orientation.

Firstly, is your orientation about sexual attraction or physical attraction?

My friend, as I discovered, is repulsed by the idea of penetration. She will only do clitoral stimulation. She gets off on lesbian porn even though she's "straight" (says she), has given a blow job before but didn't really like it, and has never had any inclination to get sexually intimate with a boy (that involves penetration). When I asked her what he crushes on boys are like, she said it's physical, she gets really turned on by their faces and hair, but that's it. Earlier we were talking about sexual fantasies, and she said hers was to fuck her manager at work. She explained this a bit more, saying that by that, she means making out and him eating her out. (I'm sorry, darling, if by chance you are reading this! I'm curious about it all, that's why I'm asking<3)

So I'm wondering, what kind of attraction defines sexual orientation. Sexual? Lol. I wonder what you all think her sexual orientation would be. Not so I can go off and say "People think you're _____, so you are" but because I'm genuinely interested. I've accepted myself since I was 12 (now 16) but only really came to terms with it this last year, and it is now a topic with anyone that I am highly interested. Because it's not really a definite thing, you know? I'd like to hear what you have to say.

Second, is there a scale of orientation?

Take me, for example. I know I'm not completely bisexual since I am way more attracted to females than males. So perhaps, something like this exists?

(pretend bi is in the middle =P)

Does anyone else kind of fall between orientations?

(PS, I tried to take a look through the archives but I find the vulvapedia really difficult to navigate, and wasn't coming up with much of anything, so I thought I may as well ask. If perhaps I did overlook something directly related to this stuff, kindly link me to it!)

Thanks everyone :)