Is sex like an addiction?

[lunarcapricorn.livejournal.com]

Do some people really NEED sex? Like they can't function without it?

I would like to have a sex-less relationship, but I've noticed that when we go without for a while, my boyfriend gets more determined to have sex. He starts making dirty comments/jokes, grabbing me, touching me more, etc. He's not the nice man I know, he gets scary. Sometimes I really have to fight him off.

I don't understand it because I can go forever without. Do some people just NEED to have sex?

Comments

[zellie-bean.livejournal.com]

He needs a major talking to about his behavior, although frankly anyone who gets 'scary' just because you don't want to have sex is NOT someone I want around me--even as a friend--because well..it's scary! That breaks my trust in someone. No matter how nice someone is otherwise, I just couldn't deal with that and be comfortable with them--let alone comfortable enought to have sex. It sounds way too much like abusive potential and if he gets scary about that, what else is he going to get scary about down the road? People can be very two-faced like that but no matter how wonderful the nice side is, the darker side isn't always worth it.

The sexless relationship thing really needs to be talked over with him in a way that he understands. For me, that would be an end to the relationship. I have sexless relationships...I call them friendships, close friendships, etc. The defining line I see between what is and isn't a romantic relationship is the sexuality (even though at one point I considered myself asexual ;) ). Asexuality is a total valid position, but it's going to be very hard for a sexual person to understand and maybe something that isn't going to worth for them within a relationship.

From a physical standpoint, my partner says it's something like every 48-72 hours that penis pressure needs to be released and if it doesn't come from sex or masturbation, it comes from wet dreams. He describes it like a pressure valve building up during that time and it can be very uncomfortable for him. He would probably have sex 5x a day if he could.

Because of that and because it's something he enjoys and I like making him happy ;) if I'm not interested in sex, I'll do oral/manual on him....less pressure on me and he gets his pressure relieved ;)