Is sex like an addiction?

[lunarcapricorn.livejournal.com]

Do some people really NEED sex? Like they can't function without it?

I would like to have a sex-less relationship, but I've noticed that when we go without for a while, my boyfriend gets more determined to have sex. He starts making dirty comments/jokes, grabbing me, touching me more, etc. He's not the nice man I know, he gets scary. Sometimes I really have to fight him off.

I don't understand it because I can go forever without. Do some people just NEED to have sex?

Comments

[emmycantbemeeko.livejournal.com]

No one NEEDS to have sex in the sense that they will die without it the way they would without food or water. But some people need sex in order to be happy and satisfied and fulfilled in life, yes.

Like others have said, nothing gives anyone else the right to demand or take sexual contact from you. If you are having to fight him off, that is not at all okay.

At the same time, sexual contact is a normal, healthy part of many relationships, and especially if it has been a part of yours in the past, your boyfriend may not be understand or have fully accepted that you are no longer interested at all. While wanting a sexless relationship isn't wrong or bad, it is not what most people assume they are getting into when they become involved with someone, and not wanting sex is as hard for highly sexed people to comprehend as wanting sex is difficult for you to understand.

For that reason it's very, very important that you make your current desires extremely clear to your boyfriend, and establish boundaries that you can both live with. If you don't do that proactively, and your boyfriend is not happy without sex, then the situation wil likely eventually blow up, and it could be very messy indeed.

From a personal perspective- I would say that I "need" sex. Not that I'd die without it, but I need it in the same way that I need emotional connections, friendships, loving familial bonds, and affectionate treatment, in order to be a content, fulfilled, happy person. Sex is an important part of my life, and I could not be happy in a relationship in which my partner did not want to have sex with me. Without regular sex I would be physically uncomfortable, mentally distracted and frustrated, and emotionally unfulfilled.

In that sense it is very much possible for someone to "need" sex. It doesn't give someone the right to force their partner into sex, but it is a legitimate need/desire for many people. Sex is, for many people, a need in the same sense as love and human contact are needs.

[scien.livejournal.com]

I second every word.

[fiercekitty.livejournal.com]

ditto.

[lyenuv.livejournal.com]

Likewise.

[roxy-girl05.livejournal.com]

iawtc

[intothenite.livejournal.com]

Well spoken.