nervous about sex

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I have been dating my boyfriend almost a year now, and we both enjoy having sex with each other but within the last 4 months or so I have become very paranoid about getting pregnant. Because of this I haven't been enjoying sex as much, and don't want to at all sometimes just because I am so afraid of getting pregnant.

We use condoms every time and he's very careful with using them, but I still can't seem to shake the thought in the back of my mind. I spoke with my doctor and because of some past health problems in my family she said I shouldn't be on hormonal birth control.

Also, I normally weigh about 115-120 and anytime my weight fluctuates or I think something has changed about my body, I automatically think I'm pregnant and start to freak out. Lately I've been feeling kind of sick, and I freak myself out even more then.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any pointers on how I can keep my mind off this and start enjoying sex again. Or if anyone has had similar experiences and what you do about it?

Comments

[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

You can try:

- Condoms + spermicide
- Condoms + diaphragm
- Condoms + withdrawal
- Condoms + FAM
- Condoms + IUD

Or heck, condoms + spermicide + diaphragm + withdrawal + FAM, if you so chose. Avoiding sex on days you're most likely to be fertile plus having him withdraw even while using the condom might help bolster your confidence.

Backaches, slight fever, nausea, slight weight fluctuation, etc. can all be caused by a billion different things and don't have to mean pregnancy. In fact you can think of pregnancy as being one of a hundred different things that could be causing any weird little symptoms... so, any time you feel a little off, 99% of the time it's going to be because you just happen to feel off, not because you're pregnant.