pain during fingering

[confused90.livejournal.com]

Just a quick concern. I hooked up with this guy last night, and he tried to finger me, but every time hee tried to put his fingers inside, it REALLY hurt. I've been fingered before by a different guy, so I dunno what the problem is.

If it makes any difference, I'm fifteen. and I'd had a fair bit to drink (I know, I know, it's bad. I was celebrating end of exams)

any feedback would be appreciated.

Comments

[tornattheelbo.livejournal.com]

perhaps you just weren't wet enough, and it's totally possible the guy had not a clue about what he was doing...

[sweetseadragon.livejournal.com]

If he doesn't know what it's doing, it probably doesn't feel very good. His idea of what feels good and your idea of what feels good might not match up. Maybe you weren't aroused. Who knows. If it doesn't feel good, ask him to stop or tell him what you'd like him to do. 15 year old boys aren't exactly the most intuitive or adept lovers.

This may or may not be applicable to you. When I drink alcohol sex or intimate activities become less pleasurable - I have a much more difficult time becoming aroused or having an orgasm.

[confused90.livejournal.com]

Yea, don't worry about that, I went "OOOW!" really loud and he was really apologetic. Lol. And to let you know, he's going in 17 (I know it's trivial, but it matters when you're an adolescent)

[sweetseadragon.livejournal.com]

lol. Okay, then perhaps at 17 he has more experience than a 15 year old ;)

Hope your next experience is more fun :)

[californicater9.livejournal.com]

maybe his nails weren't trimmed. that ahppend to me the first time i got fingered, and it really hurt. luckily my boyfriend keeps his nails suprizingly trimmed.

[songforpolly.livejournal.com]

Yeah I'd definately say he scratched you with a fingernail. That happened to me once and I started to bleed. Not fun.

[sakira-starwolf.livejournal.com]

New guy, different style?

Or the nails. But since the first time or two hurt like heck for me, maybe a different guy is a bit rougher and that was what made it hurt?

[spacegirl-spiff.livejournal.com]

i agree with the fingernail thing. tissue down there is quite sensitive, and even rough callouses snag sometimes. ouch.
also, even if the guy totally thinks he knows what he's doing, your vag isn't the same as anyone else's [it's a snowflake! yay!] and sometimes it just takes awhile to get to know your various inner curves.
oh, and sometimes dirty fingers cause weird things. cleanish hands are a nice touch [pun! ack!]

[hopingforrain.livejournal.com]

Maybe there wasn't enough lubrication? Were you tense? Did he start with just one finger or jump to 2 or 3? Did he start off slowly or roughly? All of these could be factors.