Agreed. My first pap was actually very painful but she was very understanding and explained -everything- she was going to do, and even let me touch the instruments she would use so I knew what to expect. [she didn't let me touch her finger though xD]
Personally, I'd say do talk to a counselor, but not the average expected definition of a counselor. I mean like some female you trust that is a bit more experienced, like maybe your mother, or who might've had a similar experience.
My initial thought is that your violation most likely stems from the doctors inability to give you fair warning to better prepare yourself. Like you even said, there is a difference between reading about something and experiencing it. She really should have communicated more, imo.
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Date: 2006-06-15 03:20 am (UTC)Personally, I'd say do talk to a counselor, but not the average expected definition of a counselor. I mean like some female you trust that is a bit more experienced, like maybe your mother, or who might've had a similar experience.
My initial thought is that your violation most likely stems from the doctors inability to give you fair warning to better prepare yourself. Like you even said, there is a difference between reading about something and experiencing it. She really should have communicated more, imo.