Needs help in the orgasm department

[https://users.livejournal.com/-------curious/]

I'm becoming awfully frustrated. I've fooled around and have had sex in my life several times, but I've never reached an orgasm. I do more fooling around than having sex. So could someone please tell me what would help me reach an orgasm when fooling around (getting fingered/recieving oral/etc). I've actually avoided masturbating for the past 10 days to see if that would help in some way.

Comments

[hoodwink.livejournal.com]

Have you reached orgasm from masturbating?

[https://users.livejournal.com/-------curious/]

Yes, and I have found myself successful every time.

[partyupgal4ever.livejournal.com]

If that's the case, perhaps you could tell someone you're intimate with what makes you feel good. You're more likely to orgasm and plus they get the bonus of doing what you like rather than it being one-sided.

[hoodwink.livejournal.com]

Have you ever shown the person you're fooling around with, or having sex with, what you do to get off?

[https://users.livejournal.com/-------curious/]

They do what I do to get off. It feels good and all, but I just can't actually get off from it. I don't know if there are any special tricks they can do or not.

[hoodwink.livejournal.com]

I suggest plenty of lube and lots of patience. Maybe try something altogether new, have you ever experimented with your G-spot? or ribbed/mesh condoms (I like these)? or any toys?

[vaselinetrees.livejournal.com]

I second the G-spot thing. I had been fingered by guys before and it just felt like I had something in there. But my current boyfriend knows about the G and it's so much better and such a new feeling!

Just tell him to stick 1 or 2 fingers up as far as they will go and feel around, kind of like the "come hither" motion people do with their fingers.

[http://users.livejournal.com/___stereotype/]

You know, I knew that I loved that but I didn't know why it felt so good!

Haha. Now I know!

[acommonreader.livejournal.com]

Are the results consistant? In that, despite the touch being similar or nearly the same (constant), if a partner is the one administering touch (variable), then no orgasm; if you, then yes (variable)?

Might the issue have to do with a more subtle, sexual kind of performance anxiety, or, just an issue caused by another presence?

[stenodork.livejournal.com]

personally i enjoy fingering.
a lot.
even dry humping.

[whitneythegreat.livejournal.com]

I'd suggest lots of teasing. That should help you get extra aroused and thus extra ready for orgasm.