Libido Loss

[http://users.livejournal.com/__mandymoo/]

Hey all, I'm a 19 year old female with libido trouble. I'm rarely in the mood, and when I do have sex I have trouble staying wet down there. It's very frustrating and upsetting. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 months now, (I've known him for 3.5) and we've fooled around a little (very minimal) and we've had sex 3 times. He's never gotten off through intercourse, and that makes me feel like I'm doing it wrong, he says I'm not but thats how I feel. I never want to have sex , I think it might be because I was raped in 2003. He knows about it, and says he's not going to hurt me, and I know that. I just don't know if he fully understands how I feel.

It's upsetting to both of us, and I feel horrible. I don't know what to do to help it.

Help

Comments

[http://users.livejournal.com/__mandymoo/]

I used to take a lot of medication for depression/anxiety 3+ years ago, I'm completely off them now.

I've seen a therapist, and I'm much better now, it will be 3 years since it happened in October, the first year was very dificult. I never thing about it anymore, and I haven't had a flash back for quie some time.

[vicious-kittie.livejournal.com]

It could be a number of things - a funk, unreadiness, depression, fatigue, hell maybe you just don't feel like it. Until you're really able to identify the cause it's difficult to fix it. My only suggestion is lots and lots of foreplay.