need advice

[lane4.livejournal.com]

I just found out that I'm pregnant. I want to keep the baby but I don't want to tell the father about it. The reason is that he isn't my boyfriend, he actually is engaged to someone else...I know, it's bad that I slept with him, but that's in the past and I want to make the best of the situation from now on. He does a lot of drugs, he's not a responsible person in my opinion and I don't want him to be involved with my kid. I know he would not be happy to hear I'm pregnant anyway. Can I just refuse to state the father's name? Will there be legal problems or something? Do you think it's ethical to do that or do I have to "give him a chance"?

I don't know, I'm confused right now but my instinct is just to keep him away :(

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whooops, left something out

[jasminekitty.livejournal.com]

I got so cought up in the parenthetical statement that I forgot to add that the second woman said she also didn't tell him because she was angry at him...understandably. Also, she told me about dreams in which she told him and he got angry, tried to force her to have an abortion and, when she refused, pushed her down the stairs or did another violent act. She said the dreams concerned her, but didn't seem realistic ("but you never know with angry people like that," she'd add) and wasn't sure whether she considered it part of her reasoning or not.