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[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

Hey all. I've never posted here before, but I love this site. It has helped me tremndously through all of my vagina problems:)
I just wanted to say that I lost my virginity today to my boyfriend. YAY. It was actually quite difficult, me having a abnormally small vaginal opening. We tried missionary at first, but was unsuccessful at entering. Then, we tried me on top. It worked alright, but he kept slipping out and it hurt me immensely. I am at a loss of imagination for what would work for us. Any suggestions? Thank you in advance!

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[inkydragon.livejournal.com]

Practice :-)

[moochar.livejournal.com]

I couldn't agree more.

[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

Trust me, We will ;)

[zeathirstain.livejournal.com]

Lube might help as well.

[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

How would lube help?

[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

we didn't have synthetic lube. I was extremely wet.

[punk-is-so-dead.livejournal.com]

It doesn't matter! Lube Lube Lube! And more lube!

[terr0rflare.livejournal.com]

The wetter the better? ^_^;;!

[pfctdayelise.livejournal.com]

Lube helps everything!!

except maybe oral sex. :)

[ilikemytie.livejournal.com]

well for that. . . flavored lube!

[enajra.livejournal.com]

LUBE! Lots an lots of lube! The wetter, my dear, the better. You can "dry up" during sex or rather lots of sex. Lube helps everything move much better inside the vagina. If you use a condom and lube, make sure it's a water-based lube because silicon (the other kind of lube base) based lube can get everywhere on the bed and make the bed EXTREMELY slippery. It's kind of funny actually but [shrugs]...otherwise pratice. Just go slow. I lost my virginity like two months ago and it still sometimes hurts when my boyfriend gets inside of me. I read an article that said it can take the vagina 6 months to "get used to" the partner's penis for like complete pleasure and such. So think of that as a good thing; however, don't try sex twice in one day until then because so far more than once a day and I tend to get bored and workout my vagina -the PC Muscle actually - so I'm rather tight.

Sorry for the rambling. Just lots of little bits of knowledge. I hope it helped.

[brn-eyd-grl.livejournal.com]

ooooo, slippery bed sounds like fun! :)

[minipeds.livejournal.com]

i just got the mental picture of Marla Singer falling off the bed in Fight Club where she says "the mattress is all sealed up in slippery plastic"

[brn-eyd-grl.livejournal.com]

hmmm...never saw it

[minipeds.livejournal.com]

it's worth the rent, especially since brad pitt and edward norton are so awesome in it.

[enajra.livejournal.com]

sorry about the rambling, again. I realize I skipped something. The part about the sex twice a day. It hurts if you have sex more than once a day until your body gets fully used to it all. Sorry about that.

[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

Thanks for your help! Yeah, I asked him if he wanted to try again (about two hours after the initial sex) but he said we should wait b/c I was still tender. We had no trouble with drying up or anything, I actually stayed pretty wet. Is it still a good idean to use lube even though I am extremely wet?

[moochar.livejournal.com]

If you are already wet enough, I doubt you need lube. Personally I've never used lube in my life because I always get really wet. Lube would just cause more mess than there already is from me.

[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I figured that. Wetness isn't the problem, it actually penetrating.

[brn-eyd-grl.livejournal.com]

I have to say I disagree. I too, get extremely wet, but I still find that I experience some burning during/after sex if we don't use lube.

[moochar.livejournal.com]

I'm sure that's normal. I just think I get way too wet. i've had to stop having sex several times just to dry off, we weird as that sounds. It's been too wet to even feel much of anything. So adding lube to that would just be way bad. :)

[vivalust.livejournal.com]

I've never used lube for vaginal penetration because I get extremely wet, but I've also had the same problem that you're talking about, when I first had sex my hymen didn't tear, it just stretched and that was very painful. It didn't tear until later on, and then it didn't even hurt as much as the stretching. It only bled a little bit after it tore, and then I was fine.

[smallbutvisible.livejournal.com]

When I first started having sex, I found that lying side-by-side, either spooning or facing each other, caused me the least pain during intercourse. I'm thinking it's because that's a shallower penetration, or maybe the angle was just easier, or something.

[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

I don't know if jhe is long enough for that. I think that is our problem

[deepbluemermaid.livejournal.com]

You could practise with a vibrator or dildo, to help you stretch out

[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

That might help,I've just never used anything like that before.

[punk-is-so-dead.livejournal.com]

I agree with what everyone said, but it took a bunch of times before I actually had "successfull" intercourse.

I COMPLETELY agree with deepbluemermaid - that would make it much more comfortable for you.

Sometimes if I go a long time in between having sex, the same problem happens to me.

[http://users.livejournal.com/___evagination/]

Try the "froggy" position. Granted you have to have muscular thighs for such activities, but this is how it works:

It's a girl on top activity, so lay him down. Stand over him with your feet next to his lower ribs. Then bend your knees and sit on his lap, leaving your feet in place. Adjust positioning as needed (depending on torso lengths, ect) and then "put him inside you." Then, use your thighs to bounce up and down, or lean forward and help push up with your hands.

XD

[selphi1174.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the help. I'll discuss that with him later!