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[lindsey-nichole.livejournal.com]

In reference to the Sandworm post, I have a question. I'm so glad that post was made - as I have been trying for two days to decide what this particular part of my vagina is called and what is going on with it. Anyway onto my problem!

I've been having sex with my current boyfriend for about 3 months now and he's considerably well-endowed compared to most guys I've had consistent PIV sex with. After about a month, sex started getting painful. Which I attributed to his size and a lube issue.  Bought some astroglide and all was well for awhile. Then I began to have the whole sore, bruised urethra UTI coming on feeling - so I went out and bought some cranberry juice and some AZO pills and by the end of that day I felt fine, so I decided it wasn't a UTI - I must just really be *that* sore. And then, my vulva starts itching like crazy, so I'm like oh god, yeast infection! She and I have clearly been having issues lately - aside from the itching I had no other yeasty symptoms - so I got a hand compact and decided to investigate. Turns out, the flesh on one side of my vaginal opening is ripped - not just like a small tear - it is literally seperated. I have no idea in the 5 years I've been having sex how I have not even noticed these two pieces of flesh before, but they are there now - and they aren't happy. Now I've noticed that the itching is coming primarily from the tear. So we're definitely not having any kind of penetration for awhile till this heals up.

I'm just curious though - has this happened to anyone else? Does this warrant a trip to my GYN? Any advice on how to speed up the healing proceess that's vag friendly?

:)

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[tyrsalvia.livejournal.com]

I was involved with a guy who had a very large cock once, and while I didn't get anything as dramatic as you have, I did have a lot of itching for a while. I went to the doctor, and she said I had a series of minute tears all around my vaginal opening, and the healing is what caused the itching. I just let it alone for a while, and it healed up. In the future, use of lube and a lot of foreplay can help prevent this. Also, you might want to get a dildo that your bf can use on you to sort of 'open you up' before penetration, much in the same way that people will use a couple of fingers to loosen up before anal sex.

[lindsey-nichole.livejournal.com]

That's not a bad idea. It's not lack of arousal, and as I said - we definitely use lube now. My poor vag just isn't used to accomodating such a girthy penis.

:)

[ais-chiq.livejournal.com]

random question....not about ur post....where'd u get the icon cuz a frind f mine has the same one....unless ur the same person....hmmmm....

[lindsey-nichole.livejournal.com]

I actually got it off of some meme that showed you icons that corresponded with your user name and a color.

So, not the same person. It's not unlikely to have the same icons. Especially not ones you can save off of a meme.

[sidewinder.livejournal.com]

This EXACT SAME THING happened to me not once, but TWICE--in the past couple of months. :-/

After about a month of pain-free (and quite frequent) sex with my new boyfriend, I started having horrible pain upon penetration and found a rip on one side of my vaginal opening. So no PIV sex for me for about 3 weeks until I could do it without pain again. (And there was still a little bleeding after sex for a while, but then that stopped after about another week or so.

Then, a couple weeks later, same thing happened on the OTHER side of my vagina--that little flap of skin split, and once again, no sex for about 2 weeks until I could do it without hitting the ceiling in pain!

Needless to say, it was really frustrating for both me and my partner. I was beginning to think something was wrong with me, that maybe it was psychological more than physical, but now it's all healed up and we're back to our normal routine. Though I do pay more attention to lubrication, and if I feel like I'm drying out at all I always call for a "time-out" to lube up.

Anyway, I found the best thing for healing was just to take it easy--no PIV sex for at least a week or two, or however long it takes before you can manage penetration and it doesn't hurt. And use plenty of lube when you try working into it again, even if you don't THINK you need it. That was what my gyno told me when I explained what was going on.

Good luck and hope everything heals up okay!

[sidewinder.livejournal.com]

Oh, and just as an extra note, I've been sexually active (if, granted, not necessarily that frequently :-) for like 12 years, and I never had this problem (or noticed this piece of flesh) before. I think it was definitely an issue of the new BF being a bit bigger than any previous partners, so the flesh had to "stretch" a bit to accomodate him.

(Needless to say, despite the frustration it cause of having to forgo penetration for a while, I think it did give my bf a bit of an ego-boost. :: snort :: You know men and their hang-ups on size...!)