[identity profile] ex-savesthed678.livejournal.com posting in [community profile] vaginapagina
I just got back from losing my virginity. I met the guy today, We hung out for awhile, and when we got back to his place, we just started going at it, and then an hour or 2 passes, and We were having sex. Oh, man it hurt. We used a condom, but he didn't like it, so he took it off, and I'm like "NO WAY"...so he puts the same on back on. I'm currently on my period, and Really Really freaking out about this. It didn't break, but, Im not sure when he put it back on, was it the same side he used before, or not. If he didn;t use the same side, Is there a chance I Could get pregnant?


He says he will call, but I don't think he will. And I dont know if i want him to.

Date: 2002-08-02 06:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] khrystene.livejournal.com
*Huge hug* I'm sure you will be ok... :D

Date: 2002-08-02 06:52 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] geminigirl
I'm glad you seem comfortable about losing your virginity.

BUT

Condoms should never ever ever ever ever be reused though...and if by accident someone starts to unroll one the wrong way, stop. Throw it out, and use a brand new condom.

This thread, from earlier today might answer some of your questions. Basically, pre-cum can contain sperm, and any of the germs that cause sexually transmitted infections.

While the chances of getting pregnant are significantly smaller during your period, it's still possible for the sperm to meet the egg if one's been released and hasn't exited the body. And it could still implant in the lining and grow a baby.

I'm not sure what the thoughts are about giving emergency contraception during menstruation, but you might want to check here or here for more information on it and make a phone call about it.


If you're going to make the choice to be sexually active, you may want to look into birth control of some kind, whether it's the Pill, a shot, a diaphragham, spermicides...whatever.

Date: 2002-08-02 09:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] the-designdiva.livejournal.com
As was mentioned earlier, you will probably be fine with regards to pregnancy. Condoms do more than just protect pregnancy as I'm sure you are more than aware.

Take care of yourself. *warm hug*

Re: =/

Date: 2002-08-03 12:05 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thatdirtyblonde.livejournal.com
{{{{HUGS}}}} sounds like you had a long and scary day. i'm sorry your first time was so upsetting.

to be technical, re-using a condom could get you pregnant or give you an STD, especially if he put it back on inside out. next time a guy won't wear a condom for you, here are some things you can say to him and his excuses:

"just this once"
once is all it takes.

"i can't feel anything with one on"
if you don't wear one you won't feel anything because we won't be doing it.

"i haven't got one with me."
I DO.

don't ever let some guy pressure you into doing anything you aren't comfortable with. it's bad for you, and besides, if you feel pressured, you won't be having all the fun you should be having. sex is awesome, you just have to be careful about it.

if i sound like i'm lecturing...i'm sorry. i just don't want this to ever happen to you again - you deserve to be thrilled to pieces about your sexual experiences, and i just wanted to help. :) if you ever want to talk about this (i know this must be scary for you) you can IM me: aim is VirtualAmiee and yahoo is thatdirtyblonde.

take care sweetie!

Amiee

Date: 2002-08-03 03:29 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] oonie.livejournal.com
i once said to someone who was trying his level best to convince me we didn't need a condom. "shall i start calling you daddy* now? you know, just to get you used to the idea?"
intercourse was not had...




*this was long before the term became 'popular'

Date: 2002-08-03 07:41 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lilyofthewest.livejournal.com
You may want to get an emergency contraception prescription. Since you are both menstruating and were probably only exposed to pre-ejaculate your pregnancy risk is very low - but it does exist. http://ec.princeton.edu

What may be a greater concern is exposure to STDs. Only a very tiny amount of pre-ejaculate is far more than enough to transmit HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, or chlamydia. You may want to have a long talk about his sexual history and previous safer sex practices with this man. It would also be a good idea to get STD tested in 6 to 8 weeks and then retest for HIV again in 6 months.

Now would be a great time to see a women's health provider and get a pelvic and make some birth control and safer sex decisions for the future.

Date: 2002-08-03 08:38 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lilyofthewest.livejournal.com
I also wanted to say that I'm sorry that you found your first intercourse to be painful and that it occurred under such circumstances as to cause a "freak out". You're doing a really good thing by coming and checking out information about your safety and I hope that you have really positive experiences in the future.

Date: 2002-08-03 10:11 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mactavish.livejournal.com
First, congratulations for not letting him continue without a condom! If a condom ever falls off, or if he removes it and wants to put it back on, it's best to use a new condom, but this time, you're probably fine.

I'm sorry your first intercourse wasn't more wonderful for you, but you really did show a lot of spunk and good judgement, and that part is wonderful.

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