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[brokeho9.livejournal.com]

I have a dumb question...

I just recently lost my virginity, I am 21 years old and finally fell in love and had sex last week, now my hyman (spelled that wrong) has not broke yet, and we have done it 3 times, but it still hurts a lot when he goes to put it in all the way, I don't know whats happening and is there anything I can do to make it stop hurting... ?

thanks

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[stormy62485.livejournal.com]

In time it goes away.. When I first starting having sex, I thought it would never be comfortable, and I also thought I'd never stop bleeding after doing it. Eventually, my body did adapt to sex, and it's the greatest thing ever!

Of course, I can't say how long it will take you. Every woman is different. Just talk about it with your significant other, and make sure he knows about it and that he takes it nice and slow with you for a while. You definitely don't want him "ramming" you. But, in time, you'll be fine.

[gina-b.livejournal.com]

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[http://users.livejournal.com/romantic_/]

You may not even have a hymen. Not all girls do, and sometimes those that were born with one have already broken it by accident - car accident, etc.

I don't think it's possible to have sex with penetration without breaking the hymen.

The pain is probably just because of the sex alone, nothing to do with your hymen or anything.

Just try to get him to go very slow and gentle.. That should help..

[aechei.livejournal.com]

it is possible--not likely--that it is not completely gone. but it is broken. there is no way around that. assuming you had one at all.

reasons for pain include--youa are not relaaxed enough, you are not wet enough, he is being to rough for an almost virgin, etc. he may be ripping a small peice of the hymen that is left, but it will stop soon. and you would almost certainly be seeinga at least a tiny bit of blood.

other causes are much more likely. buy some lube.

ive never heard of a car accident breaking it, though, ussually it is something like gymnastics, equestrian sports, or bicycling, that streetches or puts pressure on the area.

[poky.livejournal.com]

I knew a woman who had an unusually tough hymen and she couldn't even put a TAMPON in, let alone have sex. she had to have it broken by a doctor. I think there is a medical term for it, but I don't know what it is.

[aechei.livejournal.com]

not sure about the toughness, but i had what is called an imperforate hymen, that is, one that doesnt have "drainage holes". but i ride horses....i kindof killed it. that may be the same thing?

[brokeho9.livejournal.com]

i used to ride horses, that is why i figured I didn't bleed the first couple of times we did it

[ccbabe1689.livejournal.com]

Sex hurt for me a few months after my first time... I would say to use some lube cuz that helps alot, and also going slow at first helps too... it will definatly get better because I always felt like "I hate how it still hurts when he first puts it in!" and I thought it would never get better but it did. I hope I helped a lil bit...

[tilmitt.livejournal.com]

Well, at least for me, the hymen breaking doesn't mean that it would stop hurting right away. I've dated the same guy fro three years now and it still hurts. When we still lived in the same city and saw each other all the time we also had sex, well, all the time and it didn't hurt but now that I see him once a week sex always hurts. :/ Well, at least in the beginning it hurts but it gets better once you get going but afterwards it stings again. It's just the muscles/flesh stretching and shrinking and stretching and shrinking when you don't have sex like every day. :P

[sacchrinetokyo.livejournal.com]

It could also be the angle that he's entering you. I had very uncomfortable sex the first few times until I realized that tilting my hips more helped immensely.

[brokeho9.livejournal.com]

tilting them up?

[robynchick.livejournal.com]

he's probably hitting your cervix.
Try using more lube just to make sure it isn't friction. Then ask him not to thrust so deeply and see if that helps. Try a position where the penetration is more shallow, like spooning.

[brokeho9.livejournal.com]

I actually think you are right that he might be hitting my cervix, but like I said I am new to all this and probably should do some research... but if we use lube will it make it not hurt as much, like KY or something...?