Don't really know where to post this.

[heeeeeylove.livejournal.com]

I'm looking for women who have have delivered babies vaginally and who have had an episiotomy.



My fiance and I tried having sex for the first time today. I had my son a little over 8 weeks ago. I had an episiotomy and a tear. I also have developed a polyp on the site.

When we tried to have sex, it felt like his penis wouldn't go any further in but maybe an inch. Now it's probably because the head is skinnier and the shaft is wider. But I'm worried. It also hurt like hell. Has anybody experienced anything like this? What did you do? I'm scared that I'll never be able to have sex again (stupid, I know).

It seemed as though the episiotomy was fully healed. Is it hurting because the scar tissue is tough?

Like I said, I don't really know where to post this, but I am hoping someone here can help me.

Thanks, Katie.

Comments

[the-lissa.livejournal.com]

I didn't have an episiotomy, so I can't help, but maybe try some of the pregnant communities?

[meleekitten.livejournal.com]

Try massaging the area before hand.. I know this technique is used in order to avoid an episiotomy. I know it sounds weird but it should loosen up the muscle.. there's a chance when it got sewn up it got sewn up tighter [doctors tend to do that] and massaging the area might loosen up the muscle.

personally if it really hurts and you've had problems before with the area.. you might want to consider going to the doctor.

[thevargasgirl.livejournal.com]

massage it with oil daily (i think castor oil works best but i cant remember usually its given to women to use before a birth), and try to get the area ready with lots of foreplay and lube. if that doesnt work, get to a doctor.

I had a bad one

[majorfred.livejournal.com]

tear, rip, tear all the way to the rectum.

If the massaging doesn't help, it prolly is scar tissue. But if I remember, after my episiotomy, the more time I put between childbirth and sex, the better. If it is scar tissue, I'd ask a doc what can be done, 'cause I don't think massaging is gonna help that! The massaging is to loosen the muscle tissue. (Totally saved my yoni for baby #2. Apparently, I don't like to dialate.)

[deepbluemermaid.livejournal.com]

I've never had a baby - actually, I'm 25 and never had sex. Essentially, I naturally have the problem that you have due to childbirth: the vaginal entrance is too small due to the skin across the back being too tight and inflexible. It has torn whenever I've tried to have sex, so I have some scar tissue too.

I've been told that one solution to your problem, which can also be used in my situation, is something called a Fenton's Procedure. I think the stitches at the vagina end of the perineum are opened up, and the two sides are kinda pulled to the side and pinned back. Sorry I can't explain it better, but google it maybe.

[begraven.livejournal.com]

I had to wait a long time before I had sex after my first child. My gina just wasn't ready for anything to be put in there yet.

[thai-knee.livejournal.com]

whats polyp? I had an episiotomy but like I probably sound dumb, but does it look like they have sewn it up too tight... Mine looks like itwasnt sewn enough. I dont know if its even possible but im too embarassed to see anyone. But could that be a reason?