hazardous orgasms?

[moonlit.livejournal.com]

I masturbate kind of a lot, and I've always had pretty explosive orgasms, but lately it's just been getting out of hand. I completely lose control of myself and contort into crazy positions, to the extent that I've started regularly getting bruises and a sore neck. More recently, I've been tending to fall out of bad. Last night...I don't even know how to describe it, but I somehow ended up with my head suddenly bent back so far that my jaw slammed against the wall and my lip bled a fair amount. These orgasms are so great I guess they're worth a few battle scars, but I'm afraid it's getting sort of dangerous. I'm thinking if this keeps up I may have to start only masturbating on the floor away from any walls/sharp objects. Has anyone had these kinds of problems and/or have suggestions about how to deal with them?

Also, I am pretty damn sexually inexperienced (with other people), and I'm wondering if this might be a problem with partners in the future. Honestly I can see someone getting knocked out if they tried to go down on me. I definitely don't want to hurt anyone or break any rules of etiquette. Should I warn people ahead of time? Or only if I seem about to knock off a big one? (Heh, like call out "Fore!" or something?) Or tell them not to go down on me at all? Really I have no clue about these things. Any advice or insight would be much appreciated.

Comments

Damn.

[mizz-sp3ll.livejournal.com]

I don't really have much in the way of advice for you, more like admiration. =) Reading your entry makes me think I've never actually had an orgasm... color me jealous... I totally love the idea of yelling out "Fore" right when you come, though (even if you're alone).. it can be your battle cry!

[japoo.livejournal.com]

[oceandream9.livejournal.com]

I dated someone who had extremely explosive and violent orgasms. The first time we had sex in his dorm room, his roommates heard his extremely loud cries and banged on the door yelling, "are you all right man?!"
I was surprised by it, but I just got used to it after a while, and rather enjoyed it. It's quite apparent. No warning needed really. The shock is fun for your partner.

[simplyred.livejournal.com]

...HMmmm...maybe you should come with (No pun intended! ;-)
some kind of a...'helmet advisory'...??? ;-) *VBG*

Just teasing you! - OH - to have YOUR problem!! :-)

Seriously though, although *I* cannot attest to ever
having actually done myself (Or anyone else) 'bodily harm'...
I *DO* tend to be quite...'VOCAL'... Some have enjoyed &
appreciated that, some have *not* - but it's ME, & any
truly compatable Lover is going to both understand, and
~relish~ in the fact!

I **definitely** wouldn't let myself worry
about 'etiquette', & if a new Lover NEEDS to 'be
warned' about any potential for bodily damage, I think that
you'll 'KNOW'...just Trust_Your_Instincts - and keep right
on enjoying yourself immensely!! ;-)

~**HUGS & LOVE**~
Red~

[kibbles.livejournal.com]

Yanno, Red, its amazing how I can have these conversations with strangers, and then I read your post and scream, internally, TMI! TMI! TMI!

*laughs*

No wonder you guys went to that hotel. . .a lil room to scream in. . .ohmygawd and I have to tell you about the hotel last year with the people next door -- but I think thats more a post for the BAD SEX community than this one!

Don't you love when two people who know each other in a community get into these weird ass personal conversations? I assure all you bystanders that even Red is scratching her head over this, wondering what the hell I am on about --

warnings....

[joshdavis]

I doubt you'll find too many people who will have any problem with it. If you have even half that intense of an orgasm from a partner, even knowing that you go wild by yourself, they might feel good that you can get off with them, vs them having to worry whether they're good enough, or whatnot.

On the other hand, you might end up with people becoming more interested for the novelty or ego boost of it, so I would say they don't need to know until you're both getting naked.

Just my opinion. Your mileage may vary. Offer void where prohibited by law. Discontinue use if irritation occurrs.

[wynken.livejournal.com]

haha you made me laugh. sounds like fun grrl. hey i am in love with your icon. those are some lovely ladies.

[hissyfit.livejournal.com]

my partner bucks pretty wildly sometimes, so i got a warning the first time i went down... you might want to do the same thing, but i doubt that you'll have someone going down on you before they've ever seen you get off, so it might not be necessary. i almost got tossed off the bed once. it was fun. ;)

[devi-pavarti.livejournal.com]

Any partner you have should be psyched that you are enjoying yourself so much. It should turn them on more to know you are feeling so good.

If anyone ever makes you feel bad about it or doesn't want to go down on you for it, kick them to the curb, I promise, a good lover will be totally into it.

[euthanasia.livejournal.com]

you lucky son of a bitch

[the-designdiva.livejournal.com]

Sounds great. Once I had such a strong orgasm with a partner I nearly puked. LOL! He was a little freaked and a little excited but it wasn't something I knew might happen.

The first thing that came to mind about dealing with this is a partner situation is to ask, have you had orgasm with a partner before? If so have you ever experienced orgasm at this intensity with a partner? It's possible, but who knows, that you have become so familiar with orgasm by masturbation that with a partner you won't even experience the same level of orgasm or even achieve it at all.

*Seems like something Dr. Drew would say.* :)

almost puking? oh my.

[moonlit.livejournal.com]

I have only had one partner, and we never had oral sex or intercourse, but I had orgasms with him from, er, manual stimulation. They were pretty intense, but I was also super comfortable with him because we had been dating a pretty long time and were friends for even longer before that. I did accidentally whack him a few times, which made me concerned but he definitely didn't mind.

The thing is, these really, really crazy orgasms mostly have just been increasing intensity since we broke up, plus I only have them when I think about girls. So mostly this issue came up now that I am thinking about the prospect of casually dating, but I am not sure if that's even going to happen. You're probably right, though, in that if I was with a new person I may be less likely to come as hard as I do when I masturbate, at least at first when I would be nervous and all. Hmm. (I am beginning to suspect that by worrying about this I am being sort of like the 14-yr-old boy who doesn't stand much of a chance but carries around a condom in his pocket anyway. I think I just want to be sure that just in case some random girl wants to come home with me, she will not leave with a black eye.)