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[elsa.livejournal.com]

I've been thinking lately about how I have never, ever heard my mom use the word vagina. The topic was simply avoided. The closest we ever got to talking about it was when I'd nervously tell my mom that I needed more tampons. Sometimes I'm surprised I've made it this far..

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[devilbunnie.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I think my mom said "period" to me once. Ha ha! That was when she asked me if I knew what one was when I was 11 or 12! I have never heard her say "sex", but she did ask me if I thought I should be on the pill when I was around 15. Moms are sometimes funny like that. I hope if I have a daughter some day we can be open about woman stuff.

[pixiechik.livejournal.com]

My mom is funny too, she'll talk to me about it but vagina is replaced with "down there" or "girl parts" and sex is simply "Well.. *you* know". Although we dumb it down/cute it up, it's still spoken about, so I guess that's a good thing. It's just a bizarre topic to speak about with the parents anyway.. We all know we're sexual beings, but we don't really want to know.

[tree]

reading this and the few comments make me realise how fortunate i am (well, i knew it already, but this reaffirms it).

my mother has always been frank and open about sex and bodily functions since i was three years old and asked, for the first time, where babies came from. i was often asked for advice by my peers and amazed at their ignorance because of their parents' lack of communication.

i don't have a problem with my mother's sexuality at all. a few years ago she divorced her husband of 18 years (my adoptive father) and since then there's been no one in her life. she's a wonderful, beautiful, vibrant woman and i think it's wrong for her to be denied the pleasures of her own body, so for her birthday this year i'm going to take her out and buy her some sex toys. i don't necessarily want to know *when* she's using them, mind you ;) but i have no problem with the general idea of her enjoying herself.

[blue-faerie.livejournal.com]

I think it's wonderful that you have such an open relationship with your mother! I'm lucky enough that my mom and I are close like that, too. (You know, I'll never forget the time my mom asked if I would mind letting her and my dad go with me to Bound (a bondage club) one night, as they were curious. My friends were kind of freaked out by the idea, but I thought it was kind of cute.)

[tree]

that is very cool :)

[tonapah.livejournal.com]

Heh, my mom won't say it, either. She uses "down there" for vagina and "woman-doctor" for gynecologist. She disapproves of me having pre-marital sex and being on the pill, but she's too embarrassed about talking about sex to really say anything to me. I just hope I haven't completely internalized this attitude---someday when I have kids, I want them to have a sex-positive upbringing. Luckily my fiance's parents were always open with him, so at least he won't be bringing any major sex issues to the parenting. I've got my mom's embarrassment and the weight of the Catholic church (cursed early Catholic upbringing) weighing me down.