Hi everybody! First-time poster, but frequent lurker- this comm has helped me -so- much in the past, and I can't thank you enough :) However, I'm experiencing something so problematic, it's not enough to rummage through the tags anymore, so I'm hoping you guys can help me out :/
My situation: I'm a girl, and I've been with my boyfriend for two years. We've lived together for a bit less than a year. I love him immensely; he's amazingly supporting and devoted. However, our sex life needs some major help.
( Have a nice long backstory :) )I fully realize that he and I need to have a discussion about all this- I suppose I'm asking you to help me figure out how to have that discussion. I've tried to bring it up twice with not-so-good results, and I have a feeling that when I broach the subject again he'll clam up or become self-deprecating and nothing will be solved. How can I share my thoughts on the subject in the most non-threatening way possible (I thought I had this down, but our prior conversations show him to be hypersensitive about this issue)? Also, can you offer any suggestions I can pass along to him to help with his problems (premature ejaculation/self-confidence)? I don't really know enough about those topics to offer him any pointers.
tl;dr: I love my boyfriend but our sex life is not working for me, and I need help with communicating this before our relationship suffers.