boo to pthalates!

[polymexina.livejournal.com]

http://www.grist.org/news/maindish/2005/12/06/gertz/

argh -- so the above article talks about green issues/toxicity as they impact sex toys. this makes me very bitter, as i kind of took it for granted that OF COURSE my sex toys smell like plastic... in fact, my doc johnsons never smell like anything but plastic. now, however, i really want to get some new toys that are actually silicone (i've heard this can be a problem re: accurate labelling) and don't contain pthalates.

i looked at some of the suggested retailers in the article and so far really like:

http://www.smittenkittenonline.com/Products/LAYAspot_1429.cfm

any suggestions?

Lost of sex drive?

[fiorian.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend and I have been having sex now for almost 6 months, the only problem is our sex is always rushed since the only way we can see each other is while our parents are roaming nearby.

So here comes my question. I used to be hornier than my bf, about 2x at least! Whenever we could have sex, we'd go for it. But this week was different, I completely lost ALL my sex drive, i'm never in the mood and I feel horrible that I have to stop it all of a sudden. If we do attempt to have sex, it hurts me a LOT, even the positions we've done countless times before. I'm so lucky to have an understanding boyfriend, but it's kinda hard keeping that bull inside him tamed.

Anyone know what's going on? Is it possible to have too much sex for my body to handle? :/

leg hair? hormones? help!?

[cutsandstitches.livejournal.com]

Ok, here's what's up: I have a lot of leg hair, it's very dark and coarse. I really like the idea of not shaving, but sometimes I really am not into being such a spectacle. When I'm wearing shorts or a bathing suit it's extremely noticeable, and I have felt pretty judged both for not shaving and for choosing to shave, so please, spare me. My reason for posting is actually more medical. I've been wondering for a while now if my hair might be in some way linked to PCOS, hypothyroidism, or another hormone/endocrine issue? The problem is, none of the lists of symptoms seem to fit quite right. I really don't have irregular periods, I'm not overweight, regular gyno appointments (though i haven't brought up this issue specifically), I was tested once for thyroid problems a few years ago after complaining of fatigue, but was told everything was normal. Otherwise I feel pretty healthy. Maybe it's just genetics, but I thought I'd throw it out here to see if anyone else has had similar experiences and found anything out? Thanks grrls.

Sexual Satisfaction and Asking for What You Need

[xmissxmarsx.livejournal.com]

Hello all!

So, I've been with the same (wonderful) man for a little over a year and a half.  He's my first and I'm his.  Usually our sex life is great.  But as I keep getting more and more comfortable with my own sexuality, I find myself wanting more specific things.  I find myself wanting to have GREAT sex rather than GOOD sex or OK sex.  But there are a couple problems in the way, and I was hoping you ladies and gents could help me out.

1)  He hasn't quite figured out how to stimulate my clitoris in a way that I like.  He rubs it, but he usually rubs it too hard, or there's too much friction.  It becomes uncomfortable and I find myself moving away from his hand.  Once I'm really really turned on it's fine, but it hurts at first.  The thing is, I've never been able to get myself off by stimulating myself with my hands, so I don't know what to ask him to do!  The second thing in this is just, how do you tell someone what you need sexually?  He's a great guy with some serious inadequacy issues, and I want to find a way to ask for what I want without hurting his feelings.

2)  He won't EVER go on top.  He hates being the one to push into me, because usually there's a moment or two of uncomfortableness (I'm really really small.  When I go to the gyno, he uses the baby speculum on me small.)  But I think part of it is, he has no idea what to do.  And honestly, neither do I.  What's some good, guy-on-top positions I might be able to get him to try?

3)  I have tried to emphasize SO many times that I love having my whole body touched, not just my typically "sexual" parts.  He absorbs it when I say it, but as soon as we are in the heat of the moment, he ignores everything but my breast and vagina.  Don't get me wrong, he's a very attentive and giving lover, he just ignores the rest of me.  How can I get him to stimulate me everywhere without ruining the mood?


Thank you so much in advance! 


EDIT: Thank you all so so much!  Your suggestions are all wonderful and helpful! Much vagina love!

Advice/Information

[sleepsoloud.livejournal.com]

Alright, i'm here to ask an important question.

Is it possible to have your period while you're pregnant? Even once?

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How much bleeding is too much (first period after stopping Depo)?

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( Cut for period ickyness! )

Period cramps and Depression: Remedies

[torturedsoul14.livejournal.com]

I just wanted to ask what women use for period cramps. I'm fed up of running for the chemical, over the counter stuff. This is mainly because I wanna start a healthier life and go the way my mum does on herbal medicines.
I wanted to know what the best herbal medicines are rather than paracetamol and ibuprofen. 

Plus I know this isnt a vagina question but I wanna know how people have faired with St John's Wort, its a natural remedy for stress and depression. (I have a family trait of depression and I'm already on the bad days and good days where I just wanna cry...plus I get the 'bad thoughts' if you know what I mean)

Thanks in advance. (oh and quick update on my orgasm problem. I am starting to feel stuff and my now fiancee has promised to get me some toys to see if we can get something then. I'm also starting to explore what turns me on and stuff so I'm getting there...slowly).

Edit: Re-wrote the title. Thanks for the warning :)

Excess Wetness

[rhetoricians.livejournal.com]

I am very confused and vaguely worried for myself, ladies. I'll put this under a cut just in case somebody's squeamish.

( I think something's wrong with my body, lol )

Really random question.

[melodic-lyrics.livejournal.com]

I'm sure this has happened to others, but can anyone tell me why when I'm on my period (especially the first day, when it's heavy) my vulva feels achy/tired? I've always found this odd, and that's usually the only time it happens. Certainly I expect cramps in my lower stomach area, and it makes my back hurt sometimes, but its just an odd sensation to have my vulva feel achy and tired. Heh.

Okay, sorry for the random question. :)

POPs Taking two at once?

[sicksexfix.livejournal.com]

Hey guys, I'm taking Cerazette (it's a POP, with desogestrel). It has a 12 hour window and there are no breaks between packs.

I don't remember if I took my pill today. If I accidently take two, is it very harmful? (Like if I took one earlier and didn't remember then took another one now). I could just skip it and take it tomorrow but then I'd get my period :o(

I hope my post made sense.

Bleeding after EC?

[slowslowlyslow.livejournal.com]

On Monday, I took EC. I was probably being a bit over-cautious; there was a very small chance that a tiny bit of pre-cum got inside me, but I worry about these things to a ridiculous degree and needed to put my mind at rest. I took it two days after the end of my period. Also, the nurse I saw told me I had taken it within the 95% effective time bracket, so the chances of anything being amiss are pretty small.

Yesterday [Saturday], I started bleeding, and today the bleeding has become heavier; it looks like normal menstrual blood [bright to darkish red, same consistancy as usual], and the flow is what I would call light [2ml every three to four hours or so, estimated from the markings on my Mooncup]. I've also had a little bit of cramping, but this happens normally around the middle of my cycle. My period isn't due until 7th July [although I realise it could be delayed by up to a week because of the EC], so it's probably not that.

I checked the NHS website, which says that heavy bleeding after taking EC is very common, but I'm not sure what 'heavy' actually is. My body also seems to be particularly sensitive to even the smallest hormonal changes [I've had a fair bit of irregular bleeding in the past [which was checked, and turned out to be 'just one of those things'], and the smallest hint of stress or anxiety sends my periods completely off the rails], which might explain any crazy responses to a random dose of hormones.

For the record, condoms are my current form of contraception, although I am considering the pill [I am in a long-term relationship, and we have both tested negatively for STIs] and have already been for a consultation.

Has anyone else had similar experiences? Any reassurance would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

Ovulation?

[bloody-kisser.livejournal.com]

 So, generally, is ovulation two weeks before or after your period?

 Sorry if this seems a bit dumb, but thanks in advance!

Vibrators and sensitivity. ...

[kiss-bangx.livejournal.com]

Does using a pocket rocket vibrator a lot desensitize you???

I've been sexually active for almost 3 years now and I've never had an orgasm through sex. I can only do it myself with a vibrator. Maybe I'm doing it wrong. I know a lot of the time its a mental thing and I think that a lot of the time I am just thinking too much and not really paying attention to what I'm feeling.


anyways... ladies... advice?

warming condoms

[marlo-yearight.livejournal.com]

do any of you have experience with warming lubricant condoms? if so, did you like or hate them, and why? i just got some, but then i heard some bad things, so i figured i might ask you lovely people.

First time gyno visit, nervous

[just-usthree.livejournal.com]

Hey ladies...

I feel sort of lame for making this post but I don't know who else to talk to! On Wednesday I'm going to my first Gyno exam .. ever. I've been sexually active since 17, and I'm 19 now. I've been having sex with the same person for two years. He got checked for STD's just a month ago and everything came back negative. I guess I'm just embarrassed that I've waited so long to get checked up, and I'm scared something could be wrong that I don't know about. Does this sound ridiculous? One of the main reasons I didn't go to one earlier was because I wasn't comfortable with being honest and telling my mom I was having sex. She figured it out eventually when I went to college, so she made the appointment for me. She's good friends with the doctor, too.. and I don't want her to pry into any information. Not that she's allowed, or that she would.. but still that fear exists.

Ahh I'm sorry if this is confusing.