Lost of sex drive?

[fiorian.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend and I have been having sex now for almost 6 months, the only problem is our sex is always rushed since the only way we can see each other is while our parents are roaming nearby.

So here comes my question. I used to be hornier than my bf, about 2x at least! Whenever we could have sex, we'd go for it. But this week was different, I completely lost ALL my sex drive, i'm never in the mood and I feel horrible that I have to stop it all of a sudden. If we do attempt to have sex, it hurts me a LOT, even the positions we've done countless times before. I'm so lucky to have an understanding boyfriend, but it's kinda hard keeping that bull inside him tamed.

Anyone know what's going on? Is it possible to have too much sex for my body to handle? :/

Comments

[mstrenchcoat.livejournal.com]

It could be that your body just needs a little break. Is there anything stressful going on in your life? Sometimes when I'm feeling particularly stressed or worried, my sex drive drops.

Hope that helps!

[fiorian.livejournal.com]

Actually, now that you've mentioned it, that could be one of the reasons. College and job hunting have taken up most of my week now, i'm one of those people that don't noticed their stressed till it's too late. D:

Thank you~ <3

[katie-g-lynn.livejournal.com]

I second that. You also might just be having a change in hormones due to stress or your menstrual cycle. And if you aren't feeling turned on enough, trying to engage in intercourse can be painful because your body isnt prepared/lubricated for it. You could give yourself a little break, and then maybe try taking it a little slower and communicating with your partner next time to try to get yourself in the mood again.

[fiorian.livejournal.com]

I'll take that advice, thank you so much!

[indis-earfalas.livejournal.com]

It could be stress. If you're always worried about the 'rents lurking about, and having quickies so as to not be caught, it could be taking its toll on your sex drive. It could also be that time in your cycle (I didn't really start noticing any difference between times until I was 18-20).

The boggle with painful sex is that once it happens, the body can sometimes expect it to happen and then tense up ... helping it happen again (OK, so THAT was really simplistic!). Is there any way that you can find somewhere to have "slow" sex? Maybe a weekend away, or even just overnight?

[quillty.livejournal.com]

I sometimes lose the mood for a week or two at a time. What I find helps is to communicate that you don't really want to have sex, but still be affectionate. Kiss, hold each other, etc. The pressure will go down, you'll relax about it, and next thing you know...