Really confused :/

[thatcrazylaura.livejournal.com]

So i was with a guy ive been fooling around with and my best friend and her boyfriend, and we were all kind of experimenting, and so i tried stuff with my besty and we both went down on eachother while the guys watched, but then when we were done the guys joined in and we switched partners for a minute, i ended up in 69 position with my best friends bf, and he came all over my face withouth warning me. My guy friend only ended up going down on my besty and she didnt do anything to him. Long story short i am really atracted to my best friends boy friend now, idk if it was him cuming on me or what but i really like him now, i cant just ditch the guy ive been seeing for my best friends bf... Im so confused

Comments

[semalina.livejournal.com]

I think you should keep in mind that this guy is your best friend's boyfriend and that he is completely off limits until their relationship ends and if your best friend is ok with it. It might be that you liked what he did to you and keep thinking about it/him because of it. Maybe have the guy you're fooling around with do it to you? Really think about what's making you have these feelings

Thanks

[thatcrazylaura.livejournal.com]

I know not to ruin my friendship and i wouldnt leqve theguy im with but there are just so much mixed emotions right now

[sweetchild92.livejournal.com]

Keep a journal, and write out how you feel, like you've been doing here. It SUCKS to be in this situation-having feelings for someone you can't-but unfortunately...I think time is the only remedy here.

[knittinggoddess.livejournal.com]

Sometimes sex can lead to heightened emotions, what with all the neurotransmitters firing. Maybe framing it as "this is not my actual feelings, this is my brain going haywire" will help?

[spamanda77.livejournal.com]

It is VERY normal to have feelings for someone unavailable (relationship-wise) but who you have done sexual things with! I say this as a woman in a non-monogamous marriage. Sometimes the chemistry with another person is just really intense, and sometimes things work really well in the bedroom (or the living room or the kitchen or....lol).
You had a crazy awesome experience and it was really fun and now you're infatuated with the other guy? VERY normal!
My best suggestion would be to be honest about it with yourself. So you have a crush on someone else. This doesn't mean you can't continue to pursue your current boy.
Do you want to continue doing this - to explore non-monogamy more? If so, I'd suggest reading "Opening Up" by Tristan Taormino. Can you talk to your friend about what happened? You don't even have to say "I really like your boyfriend" but saying something like "that was really intense! Can we do it again sometime?"
In my personal experience that first wave of infatuation usually goes away quickly and can turn into wonderful friendship. I have some amazing friends that are part of my non-monogamous circle.
Feel free to ask me questions if you'd like - or to send me a private message if you'd rather.