Period/Sex question?

[princessmange.livejournal.com]

Hey guys :) 
So I was wondering...
I'm a huge worry wart and I'm like so obsessed with being extra extra careful during sex that a lot of times I ruin the mood for my boyfriend. I'm not on birth control because I can't tolerate it. But we do use condoms. 
Anyway,
He insists that I can't get pregnant during the first couple days of my period if we have unprotected sex and he pulls out. 
However this still worries me. 
Is he right? Or should I stick to being overly cautious? 

Comments

(frozen) Safe Space Reminder

[kaberett.livejournal.com]

Hi gypsydelirium,

We can't speak for the OP, but it's always appreciated here in VP when someone who receives a safe space reminder apologizes for their words.

We want to clarify that it is possible for you to have expressed what you said you wanted to say without this part:

NOOOO it is not a good idea to just trust some idiot man

Whether you were referring to the OP's partner specifically or to a hypothetical man, name-calling isn't okay in VP. The warning you received was in that spirit -- to make sure that those who identify as men would not feel unwelcome or unsafe in VP after reading a comment like yours. Moreover, while you were perhaps being flip, someone does not become an idiot (about vaginas or just in general) because they are a man.

Your last sentence ("I also apologize for not knowing that there is a particular written tone you must write in while talking about sex, vaginas and penises") might bear some clarification from us, too. Certainly you are welcome to use whatever tone you like when you are discussing sex, vaginas, and penises outside of vaginapagina, but when participating here all members must abide by our safe space policy (http://vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=VaginaPagina_FAQ#What_are_the_rules.3F). It is possible to express nearly any idea here, so long as one does it while honoring safe space. Name-calling -- whether in jest or not -- simply has no place here.

Lastly, we want to remind you of the appropriate channels for protesting/discussing VP maintainer actions: you can contact us privately via email (vpteam @ vaginapagina.com) or you may contact us publicly in contact_vp. It is never acceptable to follow a maintainer to their personal journal and leave rude comments there related to VP business.

In that spirit, we will now be freezing this thread. Again, if you'd like to talk further about your safe space reminder or VP's guidelines, you are welcome to email or make a post in contact_vp.

Thanks for understanding.

--alex
for the VP Team (http://vaginapagina.com/contact.php)
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