Period/Sex question?

[princessmange.livejournal.com]

Hey guys :) 
So I was wondering...
I'm a huge worry wart and I'm like so obsessed with being extra extra careful during sex that a lot of times I ruin the mood for my boyfriend. I'm not on birth control because I can't tolerate it. But we do use condoms. 
Anyway,
He insists that I can't get pregnant during the first couple days of my period if we have unprotected sex and he pulls out. 
However this still worries me. 
Is he right? Or should I stick to being overly cautious? 

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[frolicnaked.livejournal.com]

...that doesnt sound like a good idea at all if you dont want a kid....

I understand that the OP might not be comfortable with it -- and it's totally their call in their own life -- but as I mentioned in my comment below, there are people who make educated decisions to have barrier-free sex on Cycle Days 1 and 2. I did it for about 4 years as part of using fertility awareness (only with ejaculation in vagina). I'm not sure if you intended it this way, but saying "that doesn't sound like a good idea at all if you dont want a kid" is dismissive of people who've made a careful decision to do just that.

I'm not suggesting that it's the right choice for everybody, but neither is it inherently a bad decision.

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[gypsydelirium.livejournal.com]

This: "He insists that I can't get pregnant during the first couple days of my period if we have unprotected sex and he pulls out." irritated me. I want to kick him in his shins for seeming like a disrespectful jerk. Him determining the chances of pregnancy according to the "first day of her period" seems like bad idea to me; it sounds like a very unplanned out method and very much like something a teenager would do thinking it is going to work. It is her body for her to determine what she feels like is right, not his. I wasn't dismissing people that actually use that method or I wouldn't have posted more information for her to look at and make sure what she considers her first days and what would be her most fertile don't coincide. At the time I started making my post no one else had commented. Yep, I'm not eloquent in the slightest but I know from personal experience that NOOOO it is not a good idea to just trust some idiot man no matter how much you think you can trust him/love him/ like him -- he still doesn't own a vagina and more importantly he doesn't own her vagina.

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[poppleshatesyou.livejournal.com]

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