Your routine/hygiene?

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Sorry I made another profile for this question:

So, I'm just curious if anyone out there is like me, extremely paranoid about their vagina smelling/looking/whatever to a partner and I'm wondering what/if you do anything special when youre sexually active when someone other than you is going to see it all the time?

I'm currently in a relationship and we havent gotten to that point soon, but I think we may soon. We may also move in together soon so then we would be together 24/7.

As of now I shave & epilate maybe once a month or less often... thats something Ill have to get used to doing all the time.

Also I'll admit sometimes I dont shower everyday so I'll start doing that...
Right now Im really worried if we're 'in the moment' and Im not freshly showered or something, so Im wondering whats your shower-limit for being with someone? As if, if you didnt shower that morning would you excuse yourself to do it? How many hours unshowered do you think you may start to smell? I'm worried I wont smell myself but my partner might, and I wont know.

Also does anyone know how if you wash your hair too often, it actually gets oilier quicker? (its true, your skin is trying to bring back what you washed off even though to you and others its unpleasant (oils, smell)) Could the same thing happen to your vagina? Usually I shower every 2-4 days. But when Im going to be with my partner Im thinking twice a day. Could that mess anything up? Or make me 'dirtier' quicker if Im constantly washing it?

Or does anyone use any feminine wipes? Any suggestions which ones? I'm thinking about buying something like this http://www.drugstore.com/puretouch-feminine-wipes-naturals-flushable-moist-wipes/qxp315929?catid=184078 and marking over the writing on the packets so its not obvious what it is and keeping it in my purse.. Does anyone use wipes like this and have a specific suggestion? I'll probably buy them online rather than in person.


I'm also thinking I may make sure I eat fruit daily... I heard pineapple is good for... the way you may smell/taste there. Anyone have any suggestions there? Is there anything you make sure you eat or make sure you avoid if you know youre going to be sexually active?

basically I think my routine will be, shower twice a day, use feminine wipes before doing anything, and eat fruit like pineapple everyday. Anyone want to share their routine or just things you started doing when you became active? Thanks!

Comments

[archangelbeth]

What okamikaze said -- this all depends on biochemistry. I only put on deodorant in the morning. I've gone 4+ days without a shower. (Did I mention I really hate to take a shower when I'm having my period? I don't like bleeding on the floor, I don't like bleeding on towels...) I've also been married for over 20 years now!

Basically, if you're happy with your previous routine, I don't think you're going to need to change it up drastically. For one thing, if the new "routine" isn't something you're totally on-board with, and find exhausting/painful/to take too much of your time, you're going to start resenting it, and start resenting that your partner is "making" you do it -- and resenting your partner. And that's kind of the way to a major relationship failure, y'know? Sure, if your partner has a preference, and it's not going to make you resentful to try to fulfill it, it's a gesture of affection to try to follow that preference. But don't anticipate a preference where there might not be one, and especially not when it's going to cut into your routine in a way that is inconvenient.

For wipes? I wouldn't use any of them, honestly, unless you use them already because you want to do so. I'd say that -- again, barring the chance your partner might have atypical scent triggers -- a damp paper towel would be fine for a quick scrub around the external area, or a damp washcloth if you're at home. And that's "at most" -- if you don't feel grubby, then... why absorb the subtext of all the douching commercials, that vaginas are these terrible smelly things that must be tamed by the Chemicals of SCIENCE!, y'know?