Blowjobs & sex...eek

[may-third.livejournal.com]

Sorry this isn't explicitly vagina related, but there are a few things I am curious about...Regarding blowjobs, being distracted, and sex.



So, I just got into a new sexual relationship. Pretty much everything is AMAZING, we have great chemistry, our bodies line up really well, etc. We have really good sex, I'm orgasming during sex now which has never happened before, it's just overall a great experience for both of us.

But then the other day I went to give him oral sex, something I LOVE doing, and while I understand everyone is different and likes different things, something really weird happened. He seemed like he was really enjoying it but it was going on for a loooong time. I have a lot of experience with oral sex and have been told by every male bodied person I have been with that I am very good at it. He was moaning, moving around, talking dirty to me...Things were going great and it seemed like he was close to finishing, but then all of a sudden he lost his erection and told me he was "all tingly feeling" in his arms and legs and hands, and that he was talking funny. It sounded like he couldn't make D or T sounds. It was very weird. He was also shaking and was having issues controlling the movement of his arms.

Has this happened to anyone before?!

I asked him about it and he said that he felt guilty receiving oral sex because he prefers to just have intercourse...but the physical symptoms were very strange. He also mentioned that he gets distracted during oral sex, but not during intercourse...any thoughts?

Secondly...when we have sex he enjoys it so much he usually can't last more than a minute or two. This isn't completely abnormal I don't think, but does anyone have any tips to prolong things a bit?

Also, does anybody know what the position is that is conducive to cis-female orgasm? I feel like it was coital alignment technique or something like that...And what exactly it entails?


Ok, end of all my questions! Thanks in advance!!! :)

Comments

[slinkslowdown.livejournal.com]

Just physically-speaking, that sounds like some sort of seizure. O_o;

[may-third.livejournal.com]

I know, I was very worried about him for a few minutes! It took about 10 minutes for him to stop trembling/having issues talking :(

[slinkslowdown.livejournal.com]

If it's never happened to him before, he should definitely see a doctor about it. And if it happens again and lasts for much longer than that, please get medical attention right away! Longer-lasting seizures can be very dangerous; all seizures aren't exactly good, but the longer they are, the more chance of something serious happening.

[may-third.livejournal.com]

He'd never received oral sex from anyone before me...so he doesn't have anything to compare it with. I've given him blowjobs before though, and while it took a long time because he got distracted as he says, nothing like this ever happened...now I feel terrible!

[noctilucenteye.livejournal.com]

Sometimes it is possible to hyperventilate during sex which can cause tingling. Some of the other symptoms sounds like low blood sugar (the slurring speech particularly). How quickly did he recover?

[may-third.livejournal.com]

Yeah...I was thinking about that...after 5-10 minutes he was ok.

[beatrixie.livejournal.com]

That sounds like it was probably very frightening for you both. Honestly, the symptoms you describe are similar to a transient ischemic attack (TIA), which are also called ministrokes. Oftentimes, these are precursors to a stroke, so if I were him, I would seek medical attention if at all possible. I don't know if I am over-reacting in my response to your description, but the slurred speech, tingly body parts and movement issues are concerning to me. Here is a link to PubMed's info about TIAs
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001743/

[may-third.livejournal.com]

We're both 21 years old! I'm starting to get really freaked out! A stroke!?

[ljquin.livejournal.com]

I had a full-blown massive stroke aged 17 with pretty much no forewarning.
It's rare in the young but it does happen.

[may-third.livejournal.com]

:( Wow...Yeah. Jeez. I will tell him to get to his doctor, then.

[sweetchild92.livejournal.com]

ah mini strokes! I didn't know there was a more....proper medical term for them.

And as someone whose Dad suffered through these, and given the symptoms, this is definitely something to over react to.

[descent2madness.livejournal.com]

TIA was my first thought as well. Please have him get checked out, he should have an MRI/CT or other brain imaging to check things out.

[kirstenlouise.livejournal.com]

If it's at all possible for your partner, I would have him go to the doctor ASAP, particularly if this has never happened to him before. The trouble speaking worries me particularly, because you've just described classic stroke symptoms. You may also want to find out if this episode was accompanied by a serious headache---another classic sign of stroke.

It could just be a seizure, but none of us here are qualified to make that call. Please get to a doctor when you can. Best wishes. <3

[sweetchild92.livejournal.com]

Also, does anybody know what the position is that is conducive to cis-female orgasm?

That's really more of an individual thing-what works best for you and your body may be a position disliked by someone else, vice versa. I know I always see "woman on top" recommended, but I think that's more to do with depth/ability to stimulate the clitoris.

I'm also really worried about his speech. My dad had a mini stroke/s and he had off/on slurred speech and inability to pronounce certain letters.

[may-third.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that's what I meant...There's a specific position that is talked about, I think I found it here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coital_alignment_technique

I know...It hasn't happened again, and it doesn't seem to be linked with orgasm because we have sex without any problems at all...

[sweetchild92.livejournal.com]

I'm sure many people enjoy that position, but there will also be people who don't ;) Some people's penises might be shaped in a way where that position is uncomfortable, etc.

If he can, he should still get in to see a doctor ASAP.

[may-third.livejournal.com]

No, I know that, of course. I was just interested in that position, because I had heard of it before...Not that it will work for me or that it works for everyone, I just wanted to know more about it.

[sweetchild92.livejournal.com]

If it works for you and your partner-excellent! You can always experiment with different positions and see what works best.

[morwensdoor.livejournal.com]

Experimenting with stuff like this can be one of the MOST FUN parts of sex, in my not-that-humble opinion.

[sweetchild92.livejournal.com]

My not very humble minion intellectually agrees yet so often my bed can just be so comfy...so i wanna just lay in it.

[stormbringer986.livejournal.com]

When my boyfriend and I first started having sex, I used to get the worst cramps in my hands and feet for no apparent reason. It was particularly bad when I was just about to orgasm. I'd also sometimes get the tingly feeling. I never figured out what caused it.

I never experienced difficulty speaking or any kind of shaking like that though. That sounds concerning to me, especially if it has never happened before. I agree with the other comments here - If it's possible, he should go talk to a doctor about it. Even if it ends up being nothing to worry about, I think it's better to play it safe when it comes to health.