fun topic

[typeotori.livejournal.com]

OK. so. here's the deal. i'm not a member of sextips, but i'll probably end up cross-posting, sorry.

in the last 8 years vaginal penetration with penis hasn't exactly been easy. it's always difficult to get it in. is that common?

well, now i'm kind of messing around with this guy and it's freakin' painful. i don't remember ever having sex so painful, we've never 'completed' the act. he has a very thick penis. and i'm not exactly well lubricated and my libido has decreased. i'm on birth control and accutane.

we've tried ID lube (silicone), doesn't seem to help much.

help? can someone really be too big for you? i always thought that wasn't true...

Comments

[seville.livejournal.com]

Accutane, that's some serious shit...that could be preventing you from getting wet....
But some chicks also have a smaller opening there, so it makes for a harder time when having sex..speaking from experience...it always hurts me too when it is just going in, but once it's in and I'm wet, it's OK then...so for you, does it hurt all through the act, or just to go in???

[pillu.livejournal.com]

they can be too big for your personal comfort, but technically, no, babies fit through there lol, but if your comfortable with the man, there are ways to prepare your vagina for a thick member. use LOADS of lube, lube is your freind!!! prepare your vagine with lots of foreplay, fingers, vibrators etc, then once your feeling relaxed and wet, then move onto the actual act.

[melena.livejournal.com]

hm, i didn't have any trouble with sex when i was on accutane, but i would imagine that maybe more lube could help? also, try to relax and enjoy yourself and not to stress out that his penis is going to be too big or too thick or that it's going to hurt. as someone else said a baby is meant to come out of there, so theoretically, a big penis shouldn't be a problem. also make sure there's lots and lots of foreplay. try having an orgasm first, then more foreplay and then penetration.

just by 2 cents. or 8 cents. or whatever.


p.s. i was only on accutane for 3 months (it was about 4 years ago) and i haven't really had a pimple since. its pretty much the best thing that ever happened to me. i witsh you good luck with it as well.

[sibyllan.livejournal.com]

(As someone who is on Accutane right now) I find it to be so inspiring to hear Accutane success stories. Thanks.

[invisibelle.livejournal.com]

I was on it for 9 months, finished nearly 2 years ago and it's been great since. It works. Head over to the bepimpled if you ever have questions, it's greatness.

[therainqueen.livejournal.com]

You know, my boy and I always have problems getting it in if we rush too much. So then we know to give it another twenty minutes of foreplay, and to make sure I'm plenty wet down there, and everything's just fine after that. :)

[tyrsalvia.livejournal.com]

When you first started having sex, did your hymen break?

Personally, I did not break the first time or even the first couple of guys I had sex with. I was really tight for them and they were average sized but not huge. I stretched.

Then I encountered a certain exbf of mine, who is exceedingly well-endowed. Inserting him would be very painful at first but I was able to deal with the pain if I was on top and used a vibrator on my clit, which eventually made it feel good enough that the pain was no longer an issue.

One day, we were having very vigorous sex, and I felt something give and it immediately stopped hurting. When we got up afterwards, we found there was blood there. Apparently, I had finally broken.

You may have something similar going on - the first few times or guys you've had sex with may have been more gentle or much smaller, and your hymen might not be very large or it might be stretchy to the point that it has dealt ok with smaller guys. Now, though, since you're trying something a bit larger, you may be experiencing some issues with it.

My advice is to get a vibrator for your clit and keep going for a little bit. If that doesn't do it, see a doctor and ask them to check and see if you still have a hymen. You can get them to cut it open for you (painless! they give you drugs!) or give you other suggestions.

[irememberaurora.livejournal.com]

when i was on nuvaring, my vagina seemed to get tighter/smaller (it got swollen), and i had lots of dryness. due to this, sex was HORRIBLY painful. i likened it to being fucked mercilessly by a 2-liter pepsi bottle. or gods, maybe even a gallon of milk. it REALLY felt like i could not fit him inside. we tried KY warming liquid and astroglide, and neither really helped. i went off nuvaring, treated a yeast infection, and now sex is a lot better... though not the way it was before i went on the ring. so i definitely feel your pain.

i would hold off on putting yourself through the pain of milk-gallon sex and call your doctor for advice. if you're not well-lubricated, and lube isn't helping - especially silicone lube, which i've heard is THE lube to use - maybe your doc will be able to help you figure something out. good luck... i know what a pain (pun intended) it can be.