hi everyone!

[new---noise.livejournal.com]

hello there! i dont have a question or anything..just something i wanted to share with you guys. im not sure if any of you remember me, but ive posted here a few times, mostly with questions about genital HSV-1/dealing with it..i was diagnosed with it about three years ago. it was really a bummer for me, but coming here always helped me feel better. i wanted to thank you all who have answered my questions and calmed my fears about it and gave me all the valuable info i can now pass on! i just got into my first real life relationship with a really sweet boy who is totally understanding to my situation (hes gotten cold sores on his mouth in the past) and last night..i lost my virginity to him! the info i could tell him about HSV along with the info ive gained on here as far as safe sex and all that good stuff have really helped me..i just wanted to say THANK YOU! :D

EDIT: hah..YIKES..i guess i do have a question..a little while after i posted this my boyfriend and i were having sex and he came and as he did he thrusted..and the condom broke! like..ripped apart! i showered right after and am getting plan b tomorrow..i just finished my period just.yesterday pretty much. so should i be concerned? im thinking not..its just scary and im new to this!

Comments

[paraxeni.livejournal.com]

Good for you! Here's to a happy, fulfilling life of great sexual experiences!

I love happy, positive stuff like this. I hope other people with HSV can take heart from it, like you did from things you heard in here.

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

Yay!

I'm so glad this community was helpful for you -- and I'm glad you posted here. Lots of people struggle with a lot of feelings and questions and experiences about a genital HSV diagnosis, and I hope some other folks dealing with similar things can find this update and see that there are indeed happy endings.

Enjoy the honeymoon period with your new fellow -- I wish you guys all sorts of fun and happiness, in and out of bed. ;)

[archangelbeth]

1: you're not on hormonal birth control, and it's a real period, yes? (If it's HBC, don't worry about it.)

2: While the last day of your period is a reeeeeeelatively unlikely time to be in a fertile window (i.e., ovulation coming soon enough that there will still be live sperm in your system), it's not impossible. I would get the Plan B if getting pregnant is absolutely not in your current plans, yes.

3: The Plan B, taken on the 9th or 10th, should -- from the timing -- whack your ovaries upside the head and leave them reeling around for plenty long enough that the sperm would've died out.

4: Taking a shower will do nothing to statistically affect your chance of conception one way or another. (Neither will peeing immediately after, though that's good for UTI prevention. Sperm are very fragile in air (like, insta-death if they dry out), but did evolve to be able to deal with little things like not doing all those conception-maximizing tricks that people use when they're actively trying to get pregnant.)

5: Make sure you're using enough lube with the condom? Condom failures can happen, but it's a good idea to double-check that it's not due to improper use/too much friction. (If you get to a point where you're both more willing to be fluid bonded, there is the option of lambskin condoms. They're totally anti-vegan, they're expensive, and they offer no statistical protection vs. STDs... but I have never, ever had one break. Had one slip due to user-error, but I know what happened there. >_> )

Yay for a great guy, and hopefully a fun time, and boo for condom-breakage!

[nickelshoe.livejournal.com]

For you edit, I assume you're not using hormonal birth control? If you are, then I wouldn't bother with Plan B. Do you know what cycle day you're on? Count from the day you started your period, not when you ended it. If you're on cycle day 5 or before, I'd say you're probably at very low risk of pregnancy, but it's kind of your personal comfort level of the risk of you ovulating early and his sperm being particularly hardy.