Adoption

Nov. 16th, 2010 10:03 am
[identity profile] inmycrease.livejournal.com posting in [community profile] vaginapagina
I know this isn't directly vagina related, but it is related to reproduction so here goes, hope it is ok to post here.

I'm interested in adopting someday (not in the near future but still) and I was wondering if anyone knew of informative materials : books, websites, forums, etc that might help. There is a ton of information out there and I figured I'd ask around before jumping into it. I'm pretty much a complete newbie on this subject so any information, tips, advice would be excellent. Thanks in advance!

Date: 2010-11-16 03:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] cellar-closet.livejournal.com
http://www.adoption.com/

This is actually a pretty good website, it has a forum, as well as a lot of info about financial resources. I might be adopting someday, too, so I was checking things out yesterday. :) There might be better websites/books out there, but I just started looking.

Date: 2010-11-16 04:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] anthylorrel.livejournal.com
I don't know of any specific resources, but I was adopted, and my mother had told me a little bit about what she had done. She went the route of a private adoption. She worked directly with my birth mother, and a lawyer. By doing this, she was able to take me home from the hospital when I was 2 days old.

Date: 2010-11-16 05:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sunkistfriend.livejournal.com
I am a product of adoption!

I was involved in a closed adoption right from birth and also reconnected with my biological family at the same age as when my mother gave birth to me.

Ask any questions you'd like. :)

Date: 2010-11-17 01:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] atalanta0jess.livejournal.com
There are so many aspects of this, and I'm not sure exactly what you're asking about, but here are a few things that come to mind...

There is a good book called "Twenty things adopted kids wish their adoptive parents knew."

I would also encourage you to do some reading about the ethics of adoption. There are some good blogs out there by adoption activists. I don't have any of them bookmarked at the moment, but they are out there. It's good to think about where the child would be coming from, and how you feel about that in all it's intricacies before diving in. Also make sure you understand how the laws work regarding surrendering a child - the birth parents may (should, IMO) have a period of time during which they can decide they do want to parent the child, and the adoption can be disrupted. IMO, adoptive parents should be prepared for this possibility.

Finally, I like this checklist (http://thirdmom.blogspot.com/2010/04/adoptive-parent-checklist-to-read-and_872.html) for potential adoptive parents.

Anyway, this is kind of a hodgepodge, but I think it touches on some of the oft ignored aspects of adoption that are really important.

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