a question

[babydike.livejournal.com]

i dont know if this is the right place to ask....but i figured i would give it a shot. i checked the archives but didnt see anything. I had a question about sex drive. im a 20 year old lesbian who has had 4 sexual partners(all female). recently i would say since i turned 19 or so i really have no sex drive i am currently in a long distance relationship so am not having sex, however we do have phone sex and stuff but i really am never in the mood. i dont know if this could be related to depression in any way. i had been on and off antidepressants since i was 14 until 18. and had no problem with my sex drive now it seems non existent, even when i am with my girlfriend i still wont even be in the mood. But i really have no want or desire to masturbate or to even put in the effort to try to get off. i dont know has anyone else expericenced a period of low sex drive. nothing sexually terrible has happened to me in this time. thanks.

Comments

[everybabyweeps.livejournal.com]

im pretty sure most antidepressants lower your sex drive.
I was on paxil and prozac for a while, and it affected me. you should probably talk to your doctor about it if it is bothersome. But maybe if you have someone nearby you, it may come back!

[babydike.livejournal.com]

thanks for your imput. i am not currently on AD's and when i was on AD's i had no problem with a lowered sexdrive. it think it could jstu be how i feel abbout life right now. i feel like everything is jut grey and blah. all unimportant and boring. im sure once my girl gets here and my job gets better things will be okay. thanks again.

[grace-is-gone.livejournal.com]

Perhaps your depression is coming back and manifesting itself by disinterest in sex. I had the same problem you do when I first was diagnosed as having depression... in fact, Zoloft, which is supposed to lessen sex drive, increased mine greatly just because I wasn't depressed anymore. You may want to talk to a doctor about starting a course of AD's again. Serzone and Wellbutrin specifically do not cause adverse sexual side effects and are effective against depression.

Hope this helps. :)

[babydike.livejournal.com]

yeah i was on celexa for a while and also wellbutrin. i have medical insuarnce, but it doesnt cover mental health. so thats my problem. i think once me and my girl are together and my outlook on life has improved it will go away but i will check with my doc to see what i can do.

[grace-is-gone.livejournal.com]

Mention to your doc that you can't afford AD's... they may be able to either hook you up with samples, or, depending on where you live, get you on a government program for mental health consumers. I know that while my medical insurance didn't cover mental health, the doctor's office submitted my claims to the county, which paid for them. Obviously, this varies depending on your location, but there may be something someone can do for you. :)

[babydike.livejournal.com]

awesome thank you so much i will make an appointment and ask about it. im in california and young and live on my own. so im pretty sure i could qualify if such a program exists here. :)

[malantha.livejournal.com]

adding to what the person above said..

i've been able to get samples of lexapro for the past year and it didnt take much to get that. i just told them i didnt have insurance and they hooked me up w/samples. this was also with 2 different doctors (i moved), so it really shouldnt be hard for you at all if you decide to try that

by the way, i personally wouldnt recommend lexapro if you've got probs with your sex drive.. it's really decreased mine. :P

i think

[1madgirl.livejournal.com]

for me, it has to do with my headspace. If something fucked up happens to me (especially in a sexual way) or if I'm especially depressed, I'm not interested in sex. I think it's because that during this time, I'm interested in sex for the wrong reasons--like if i do want to have sex, it's so i can feel better about myself or something. When I'm confident and saucy, i have an almost insatiable sexual appetite. but if i'm all down on myself or the world in general, i don't even want to think about it.

Re: i think

[babydike.livejournal.com]

yeah well having a long distance relationship has been rather difficult to deal with. and on top of that i not happy with my job and my surroundiings in general. thanks for your comment i think it may just be because ive been rather down lately.

Re: i think

[1madgirl.livejournal.com]

i know it sounds cheesy, but try daily affirmations. I find that when I repeat things to myself daily which remind me that i'm the master of my own destiny and that i can step out of the shit anytime i want to, i feel a helluva lot better.

Re: i think

[babydike.livejournal.com]

i dont feel all that possitive otherwise i would. i dont know how to explain it really, but i dont think i can change my sucky situation. i mean i can because im the only one keeping me from doing other things but i have great insecurities in myself and my abilities. I dont think i can do much of anything and even then i dont know.... .too hard to explain some days are better than others i just have to keep an open mind and know that things will change if i want them to. thanks. i know things will get better right now im just in a rut in more ways then one. i wil be allright. :)

[al2o3cr.livejournal.com]

yep.
i go through periods like that...
and it goes away and comes back...

[babydike.livejournal.com]

thanks that gives me hope. :)