orgasms

[prosy.livejournal.com]

"I have orgasms so easily that for the longest time I didn't even realize they were orgasms. It's not something they teach you in Sex Ed. A women's mags make such a big O fuss that I figured my below-the-belt thumping just meant that I was really turned on. The hard-to-get orgasm had to be on a whole other level than what I've experienced since I was eleven and discovered scrambled soft porn on cable, right? The thought kind of scared me, to tell you the truth. Last year when I over heard Carrie P. describing them as ' waves of sensation so [fucking] intense, so [fucking] insane, they almost hurt [like fucking hell],' I realized I'd been having them all along."

--Sloppy Firsts by Megan McCafferty

Does this experience ring true for anyone else? Did you ever not realize that you were having an orgasm just because you didn't know what they were supposed to feel like? How did you realize that they were orgasms?

I've heard many many people say "you'd know if you had an orgasm" but i wonder after reading this bit in this book, if that's really true.

Any thoughts?

Also, Sloppy Firsts is a teen novel. The narrator in the above passage is a high school age girl, if that affects how you read it.

Comments

[childishdreams.livejournal.com]

When I read that book all I thought was "so all this time I've been having orgasms without sex?" I felt like a really lucky person after that. I absolutely loved Sloppy Firsts and Second Helpings. Excellent books.

[fifthconundrum.livejournal.com]

Around the time I realized what orgasms were--I think I had discovered a book in the young adult section of the library on sexuality and how your body responds to sexual stimuli--I realized I had been having them all along. I hadn't gotten to the place where I was trying to have them and thought I couldn't.

[ink-smudge-smut.livejournal.com]

i had what could have been orgasms for a long time. but i was putting so much pressure on myself to HAVE an orgasm that i wasn't enjoying myself enough. then when i realized that, what i felt before led to an orgasm a split second later.

[ragabashtule.livejournal.com]

You know, I'm really glad that you posted this, because until now, I seriously didn't know what an orgasm was supposed to feel like for a woman. ROTFL I guess I've been having them since I started watching scrambled porn on TV when I was 13. XD

-- Sarah

[xconformist.livejournal.com]

well thank goodiness for vaginapagina.
i always thought (up to veeeery recently) that orgasms has to be this screaming fit of pleasure--due to bad porn, probably. how can it be so hard for someone who's been enjoying sex for a while to orgasm, when it's almost instant for others who aren't as permiscuous? (not calling anyone who doesn't orgasm a slut)

[mooglegrl.livejournal.com]

I was just thinking about this the other day actually. When I first started masturbating in early high school, I didn't really realize that the peaks of pleasure I was experiencing were orgasms. They weren't mind-blowing -- just a "Oh, that's niiice" sensation. As time went on, I realized that they were indeed orgasms and I was a bit weirded out by it. Blame a repressed Catholic childhood for that. I didn't want to admit to myself that I was actually masturbating.. I thought I was just making myself feel good.

Now, I've realized both of those thoughts were true and since then I've been able to accept and embrace my orgasms so they've only gotten more fun.

[isolt.livejournal.com]

When I had my first orgasm, it did take me a few days to figure out what it was. All I knew at the time was that it simply felt really, amazingly good.

Sometimes I think it would be better if we didn't know what orgasms were, and just simply did what feels good. I think we all put too much pressure on ourselves to have them.

[political-punk.livejournal.com]

Well, I actually have a hard time cumming...the first time was with my partner and I thought it was the beginning of a seizure...and then for a while I wasn't sure *what* it was. Go me. I'm a dork.

[thevargasgirl.livejournal.com]

yes!
ive been masturbating the same way for so long its difficult to come any other way as well.
but i make do
-=t

[loanwords.livejournal.com]

At the beginning, I was kind of focused on having them. And then when I learned to relax, they just happened.

[memery.livejournal.com]

Orgasms are strange beings. I've had some where I could hardly feel them, but definitely knew I had them, and others that actually HURT and I screamed bloody murder.... until 2 minutes later when I turned to mush. :)

[katlynel.livejournal.com]

I never understood why I would be masturbating and it would feel better and better and then all of a sudden it'd stop feeling good and I wouldn't want to do it any more. heh.

[ambivalency.livejournal.com]

I have the same exact feeling during sex... feels good, gets better, after a while (usually after he cums) I don't want to do it anymore.

If thats an orgasm, I need to talk with my Creator. It's like walking up a hill and not going down the other side.

[katlynel.livejournal.com]

Hmm.
Would it perhaps help if sex wasn't over after he orgasmed? It doesn't really make sense that we define sex as ending once the man orgasms. My boyfriend is really good about it: when he orgasms, he knows I can always come one more time, so he takes a few seconds to catch his breath and then immediately turns over and either makes me come with his hand, or watches while I masturbate.

[ambivalency.livejournal.com]

*nods*My boy is pretty good about that, too. He can usually stay erect after orgasm, and if he doesn't is more than happy to continue with fingers, toys etc. Its just he can control orgasm so much,t hat after an hour of sex, I'm physically tired out *LOL*

Do you think its a universal thing, guys liking to watch girls masturbate? (well, hetro guys, at least) Every single guy I've ever talked to loves it... strange.

[begraven.livejournal.com]

THe first time I had an orgasm, I thought the guys rubber had broke! And he was like, 'um, no, that is you' . I just kept gushing and gushing. I didn't realize that women would/could cum too and it took months for me to realize that was what that was...

There are different levels of orgasms though I suppose. I don't always cum, but I do have smaller orgasms alot.