heavy discharge and sex

[lovelyjubilee.livejournal.com]

Lately I've had heavier than usual white discharge, and it's starting to put a dampener on my sexlife. I think it's from my BC, because I had the same white kind of discharge off BC, but I feel like it's picked up since switching brands a few months ago.

Anyway, because i ALWAYS seem to have discharge a'goin on inside me, it's bothering me when i have sex. It's to the point where I don't want to have sex because it really grosses me out seeing my discharge on my SO's penis. My SO has either never noticed or never said anything, but it really bothers me personally.

I read on here somewhere that depending on how hydrated you are affects how much discharge you give off. Is that true? 

 

Anyway, am I the only one and is there anything I can do to at least make this less of a problem?

Comments

[voicesinherbody.livejournal.com]

I've always had a lot of discharge, from the moment I started my period in 7th grade so you are totally not alone.

But it doesn't bother me at all, it's just the way my vagina is.

[leads-to-sex.livejournal.com]

I've had that happen. It's a little yucky-looking when it's visible on my husband's penis, but he never seems to notice.

What stops me from wanting to have sex is when I have dark brown discharge, which I've been having for over a week straight now. :( It comes and goes. I attribute it to taking my birth control pills while skipping the "period" week pills... (I'm on a generic where I'm only supposed to have 4 periods a year, but I want NO periods!)

[leads-to-sex.livejournal.com]

To clarify, I did have very dark discharge every now and then before I was on the pill, but now it seems to stay for longer when it does appear. And I swear it usually seems to happen around times I really want to have sex!

[saraiel.livejournal.com]

You are not alone! I stopped taking BC and it still seems to get EVERYWHERE during sex. And I normally end up feeling pretty gross too :(

I'm kind of wondering if mine is possibly a yeast infection, because it seems to come and go a lot. But if it's not I wish I knew of other ways to make it less of a problem as well. So I'm interested to see the responses you get.

[betterbebalboa.livejournal.com]

The only way I can think to prevent discharge from getting on your partner's penis is to head to the bathroom right before sexytimes, and use a finger or a dildo to wiggle around up there and get most of it out already. Then you can wash up and come back out.

Of course, that may turn you off even more. In which case... sorry, but I don't know of anything that will reduce your discharge.

[paraxeni.livejournal.com]

You are supposed to have vaginal discharge. Everyone with a prepubescent vagina, onwards all the way through life, is supposed to have vaginal discharge. Open your mouth and stick your finger in it. Is it wet in there? Damn right it is. How icky and uncomfortable is a dry mouth? Bleurgh horrible. Your vagina is a mucous membrane exactly like the inside of your mouth. The discharge performs exactly the same function as saliva. It stops things sticking together, it stops dirt and bacteria sticking, it flushes away dead cells, it keeps the tissue moisturised so that vigourous activity (eating with the mouth, sex or birth with the vag) doesn't cause tears or cuts.

It is absolutely 100% normal. It isn't an infection. It's your body's brilliant way of keeping house. Don't be ashamed or disgusted. When menopausal women complain of dryness it's because it is a horrible thing. Seriously, as far as vaginas go the wetter the better, cotton mouth is bad enough, cotton vag? OUCH!

[britasaurus-rex.livejournal.com]

Lol Brilliant!

[combover.livejournal.com]

yes. more people (men AND women) need to understand this.

[paraxeni.livejournal.com]

More people need to be taught this. Seems like in a lot of places sexual health education is sorely lacking. I want to scream sometimes, "Parents, don't leave your kids in the dark, and you there, teachers, these young people deserve to know about their own bodies!" The problem is that if nobody ever tells you what each bit is called, how do you know what to look for? I know I wouldn't like to google "wet vagina"!

[forwhataim.livejournal.com]

I've always had a lot of discharge. I've only considered it a problem in terms of wetting and staining my underwear if I don't wear a pantiliner. I am feeling confused here though, discharge is the same fluid that's produced during arousal, right? So don't you need it for penetration? I mean if there's too much slipperiness it can reduce sensation, but other than that isn't it "yay fluids!"?

[paraxeni.livejournal.com]

ETA- I replied to your comment with totally the wrong thing but I'm leaving it in case it helps anyone else! I'm not using a pc and stuff seems to go astray. Sadly the OP is not alone in believing wet=bad. One woman who posted in here was suicidal because she had discharge, was getting married soon, and assumed her husband would be horrified. As for the penetration thing you would again be surprised at how many people don't think wet=good. One man had been telling his partner that she must have an STI because she produced so much discharge before sex, another refused to touch his gf until she wiped herself 'clean'. There's normal vaginal discharge that's there all the time. It has a similar consistency to saliva, and can range from you just feeling damp to being drippy and leaving stains. Again, absolutely 100% normal. It can vary with age, time of cycle, hydration but that's ok too. Your inner labia, clit and vaginal area are supposed to feel moist all the time like the inside of your mouth or nose, not dry like skin.

You produce extra fluid during arousal. There are two little glands either side of the vagina called Bartholins Glands. These produce the more slippery, slick fluid to facilitate penetration. Sometimes during penetrative sex asll your normal fluids and this lubrication fluid get mixed together and can look white and thick, but again, 100% normal.

[iwalkthelinex.livejournal.com]

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