SO scared

[perfection2007.livejournal.com]

I had sex for the first time this summer. It was w/ 2 men, way older than me, definite party guys, so I KNOW for a fact they had sex with countless ppl. It was always unprotected sex cuz I wasnt completely aware of risks until AFTER the sex.

I noticed a tiny sore 'down there' couple wks ago but didnt bother me.
But now, its starting to swell a little bit
and stings when I touch it.

I'm going to get tested this week.
But I'm soo scared that I'm gona die from this.

Does this sound like AIDS/HIV??
 

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[anthylorrel.livejournal.com]

No, it sounds like genital warts.

[there-she-went.livejournal.com]

Not at all actually.

[sherrila.livejournal.com]

I'd like to reassure you: you aren't going to die from a sore on your genitals. You may have been exposed to an STI or you may have a YI or you may simply have a pimple.

Do your best to relax until the testing. The stress won't make you feel any better.

Good luck! Let us know how you're doing after the tests, okay?

[perfection2007.livejournal.com]

Thanks everyone! I'm new to sex, STI, STD, HIV, etc, so I had no idea what to expect. This was calming, but definitely getting tested this week.

[anthylorrel.livejournal.com]

Please use a condom in the future for your own good. There are more than just diseases to worry about withsex. You could end up pregnant from unprotected sex.

[soulpaintedstar.livejournal.com]

THIS! No it doesn't sound like HIV. It's at worst herpes or even an ingrown hair. Could also be a staph boil. Either way, any of the above are treatable and you're life isn't going to end I promise. Yes, it's scary but you're going to end up being ok. Keep us posted!

[jenn-possible.livejournal.com]

I agree that it sounds like it *could* be herpes at the very worst. Since you have an active sore, your doctor can swab it and tell you what's going on.

Do you want contraception/birth control/protected sex advice? We can always offer suggestions, and you can relay that info back to your doctor if it's the pill or something else that requires a prescription.

[fego04.livejournal.com]

I agree. There are soooo many things that could happen with unprotected sex.. its just not worth it! :)

[righteousbean.livejournal.com]

It doesn't sound like HIV/AIDS, and you are not going to die.
What it does sound like is a possible wart, a urinary tract infection, a yeast infection, an ingrown hair, a pimple. There are lots of possibilities.

And as others have mentioned, please use condonms next time. Make sure you take care of yourself first, and make sure that you are not putting yourself at risk of an unwanted pregnancy or an infection.

[ticktockman.livejournal.com]

There are a bunch of sites where you can look up the various STIs to find out details, and some of them might be helpful for you.

Planned Parenthood has some good information here: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex-101.htm

Scarleteen.com has a number of articles here: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/infection

San Francisco Sex Information has a phone line to answer questions, staffed by volunteers, and you don't have to be from San Francisco to call: http://sfsi.org/wiki/Main_Page

g'luck

*daha*

[biscuitpirate.livejournal.com]

I agree with everyone else, to quote my gyno when I went in with mysterious bumps that I thought in a panic were herpes, she tapped a tongue depressor on my bumps and said "if you had herpes you'd be jumping off the table right now". Funny lady.

Anyway what I had is Mollusca. It's a skin infection that is transferable but more like poison ivy is transferable. Someone else might get it, but they won't have to live with it.

I have this rule, if it can kill you or alter your life permanently, do your research before engaging. I apply this rule to drugs, alcohol, driving and SEX. There's tons of information out there at the click of a button. Bone up to at least save yourself this stress in the future.

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[hippie-anon.livejournal.com]

It sounds like a troll

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[eexposed.livejournal.com]

My understanding is that if someone believes a poster is a troll, they are to take it up with a mod. It sounds like a situation that is perfectly plausible to me, and something that, were I in the OP's position, I would be worried too.

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[perfection2007.livejournal.com]

um this wasnt a troll post. im genuinely worried and am getting tested this week.

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[primal-pastry.livejournal.com]

You're doing the right thing in looking for information and trying to make more informed choices for your health. I hope that the good advice you've gotten here has helped you feel better. I wish you luck!

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[hotcoffeems.livejournal.com]

My immediate fear would be herpes, because due to a scare around Easter (documented here, in fact), that's where my mind goes when someone says there are sores on the bits. AIDS would not cause what you have written. In fact, that's something to consider QUITE seriously: HIV infection isn't something that gives off definite signs and signals. So don't be feckless when it comes to exposing yourself carelessly, 'cause seriously: no one is worth dying for, and really, few relationships are worth risking something chronic like HSV2, either.

It is, more than likely, another kind of infection or issue altogether. However, go get tested. And be aware that if you want to find out if it is herpes, herpes testing is not usually part of a standard STD panel, and you may have to specifically request testing for it.

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[goldfoil.livejournal.com]

it definitely does not sound like HIV, it could be herpes or another STI, or just a pimple. Get yourself checked out and act more sensibly in the future.

It's really quite sad that not only were you not aware of the risks, but neither of your partners thought it nessecary to suggest protection. You should practice caution ya know?

Too late now, i hope all is well:) Try and educate yourself! Read the memories here and check out your country's version of Family Planning (Maybe Planned Parenthood?). Also, websites like http://www.scarleteen.com/ will help.

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[cadetsandkings.livejournal.com]

I would not guess HIV, I would guess a vaginal imbalance that is causing tender skin and fissures, or HSV.

[ladycat.livejournal.com]

Feel the calm, you very rarely die from an STI. What you're describing isn't a typical HIV symptom/indicator, but even if the worst has happened then the effective treatments for HIV now are prolonging people's lives far, far longer.

Good luck with the tests, let us know how it works out.