Looking for vibe/toy recommendation

[n0soup4u.livejournal.com]

I checked the memories, but didn't see anything specifically related to my question.

I currently have a vibe/dildo that's...ok. I can get off on it with clitoral stimulation, but it's not even comfortable, let alone pleasurable, for me to insert it.  I've tried it with lots of lube, and that doesn't really seem to help.  This one is hard plastic and it doesn't feel like it has enough give.

I've thought about getting one of the softer ones (I read about a silicone one that was pretty soft...something called VixSkin?).   See the problem is, even with regular PIV sex, I find it uncomfortable with a condom because I don't get that "give" of the skin from the penis moving up and down (even when he's totally hard, the skin still has movement...or maybe my partner's weird?  I've only ever had PIV sex with my husband, and only played around with one other guy and I don't really remember what his was like...that was like 20 years ago!).  Since we rely solely on condoms for contraception, I've had to specifically seek out the condoms that have the extra room at the end so that the condom can move and PIV sex was MUCH better for me (but still not nearly as nice as naked penis sex...mmmmmm).

So back to toys...I can take or leave one (vibe is fine for clitoral stimulation, which is my favorite way to come anyway), but my husband really enjoys seeing me get off with a penetrating toy.  Which I'm cool with, I just need to find one that works.  So my questions are:
1) has anyone found a toy that mimics the hardness of a real penis along with the way the skin still moves?
and/or
2) has anyone who has the same issues as me found a toy that works well for them?

I don't care if it's "realistic" or not.  I'd prefer it to be something I don't have to use a condom with (which I believe leaves me with either silicone or something rigid like glass or plastic, although I can't see the latter meeting my needs).  Having a vibe component would be nice, but isn't essential.  Oh, and no bumps/ridges, I can't stand that (minor bumps to look like a real penis are fine, I just can't stand the "for her pleasure" kind of stuff....it's not for *my* pleasure! LOL)

 

Comments

[archangelbeth]

I fear I don't know about the toys... (A more slender, maybe-curved glass toy might be interesting, though -- depending on the why of the discomfort for you. Glass is... really slick.) Cyberskin toys sometimes claim to feel "just like the real thing," though they're kind of expensive as well and you can't necessarily boil them and put them on ebay as one could a glass toy.

However, on the condom side, have you ever tried lambskins? (They are the anti-vegan, and not rated for STI-prevention (not an issue in your case, I gather), and they are expensive, but www.naturalamb.com often offers a free sample one.) I find that they have a goodly amount of "give" to them, and while they're awfully expensive for just use with toys... it might be an option.

Good luck!

[cheesybunny.livejournal.com]

Vixskin toys really do feel really real, at least to the touch of the hand (haven't actually bought one to try it out yet, but have felt one in the store). I do have a regular Vixen (the company that makes vixskin) silicone dildo and I LOVE it. This company is top quality, and everything is silicone so you don't have to worry that it will be hard to clean (wash it off every time and boil it once in awhile). Very high quality and very worth the extra $$

[beigestockings.livejournal.com]

i once tried the ivibe rabbit and LOVED it. it requires extensive batteries, and a friend of mine found it on a website for like, $80. in stores i believe it retails for over $180. It comes in different colours, and has both penetration and vibration stimulation.

[renee-de-la-mer.livejournal.com]

Having worked for several years in the adult toy industry, I would wholeheartedly recommend AGAINST any of the VixSkin, CyberSkin, FantaFlesh, anything that pretends to be like "real skin." If you sit any of those on a paper bag and leave it overnight, there will be an oil stain where the toy was sitting. GROSS. Also if you make the mistake of letting one of those real-skin toys touch another of a different material, there is the revolting, horrifying risk of opening your toy drawer and seeing that the toys have chemically stuck themselves together and that pulling them apart results in strings of droopy, silly-putty-esque tan-colored chemical dripping all over the nice cherry finish on your drawer. OH MY GOD HORRIFYING. Nothing like that is ever going in my vag again.

Go for silicone, TPE (don't just buy at the word 'elastomer,' make sure you do your research) or latex (so long as the company makes sure not to include heavy metals or other ickies in their toys - you can check up on this). I hate to endorse, but check out Doc Johnson or Tantus. They're the most non-scary, as far as my research and/or my vagina is concerned (she with all her histrionic objections to phthalates and heavy metals in her pleasure objects...).

Have you considered a rabbit-type vibrator? They involve a penetrative shaft with a little nubbin sticking out off the bottom side to stimulate the clitoris. Usually the little nubbin will vibrate; usually the shaft also vibrates, or will sometimes rotate a little to stimulate the g-spot. It's much less scary than it sounds, although the dual stimulation can be a bit much for some women, myself included. They're not right for everyone, but if you're lucky enough to have a non-seedy adult shop in your area, waltz on in and ask the clerk to pull some toys out of the package and show you what they do. It's a neat concept, and it might just be right up your alley. As it were.

Also, more relevantly, Tantus - and on most of its packaging also (and in every case where I've been interested enough to look, on the website) Doc Johnson - also comes right out and say what their toys are made of (e.g. TPR/TPE, silicone, latex). Interestingly, in an AVN press release and on some of their 2008-era packaging, Doc Johnson talked about eliminating heavy metals such as cadmium from their toys. I wonder what it would take to substantiate those claims for the consumer...

[renee-de-la-mer.livejournal.com]

Edit: NOT VixSkin - RealSkin was what I meant to say. ><;