Looking for vibe/toy recommendation

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I checked the memories, but didn't see anything specifically related to my question.

I currently have a vibe/dildo that's...ok. I can get off on it with clitoral stimulation, but it's not even comfortable, let alone pleasurable, for me to insert it.  I've tried it with lots of lube, and that doesn't really seem to help.  This one is hard plastic and it doesn't feel like it has enough give.

I've thought about getting one of the softer ones (I read about a silicone one that was pretty soft...something called VixSkin?).   See the problem is, even with regular PIV sex, I find it uncomfortable with a condom because I don't get that "give" of the skin from the penis moving up and down (even when he's totally hard, the skin still has movement...or maybe my partner's weird?  I've only ever had PIV sex with my husband, and only played around with one other guy and I don't really remember what his was like...that was like 20 years ago!).  Since we rely solely on condoms for contraception, I've had to specifically seek out the condoms that have the extra room at the end so that the condom can move and PIV sex was MUCH better for me (but still not nearly as nice as naked penis sex...mmmmmm).

So back to toys...I can take or leave one (vibe is fine for clitoral stimulation, which is my favorite way to come anyway), but my husband really enjoys seeing me get off with a penetrating toy.  Which I'm cool with, I just need to find one that works.  So my questions are:
1) has anyone found a toy that mimics the hardness of a real penis along with the way the skin still moves?
and/or
2) has anyone who has the same issues as me found a toy that works well for them?

I don't care if it's "realistic" or not.  I'd prefer it to be something I don't have to use a condom with (which I believe leaves me with either silicone or something rigid like glass or plastic, although I can't see the latter meeting my needs).  Having a vibe component would be nice, but isn't essential.  Oh, and no bumps/ridges, I can't stand that (minor bumps to look like a real penis are fine, I just can't stand the "for her pleasure" kind of stuff....it's not for *my* pleasure! LOL)

 

Comments

[archangelbeth]

I fear I don't know about the toys... (A more slender, maybe-curved glass toy might be interesting, though -- depending on the why of the discomfort for you. Glass is... really slick.) Cyberskin toys sometimes claim to feel "just like the real thing," though they're kind of expensive as well and you can't necessarily boil them and put them on ebay as one could a glass toy.

However, on the condom side, have you ever tried lambskins? (They are the anti-vegan, and not rated for STI-prevention (not an issue in your case, I gather), and they are expensive, but www.naturalamb.com often offers a free sample one.) I find that they have a goodly amount of "give" to them, and while they're awfully expensive for just use with toys... it might be an option.

Good luck!