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[hastoknow.livejournal.com]

Soooo I have about zero experience with sex. I've made out with guys, and that's it, until now.

Recently, I just started sort of maybe kind of seeing this boy, and we've been fooling around. It's all fine and dandy and lovely, except for the fact that I'm kind of self conscious about my pubic hair. I don't trim or shave or wax or anything, since I've never had a need to before, and now I'm super worried he's going to think I'm super gross or hairy.

This is exacerbated by the fact that every time we start getting intense and a little more "hands-on" with the making out, he says that he really wants to go down on me. He's probably said this a million times now, and I am so freaked out that if I say yes he'll be totally squicked out by the hair.

I'm not THAT hairy of a person: it's not like a jungle down there or anything, but I just want to trim and make it a little neater, but I have NO IDEA how to or where to even begin or what it's supposed to look like.




...so, yes, this is my neurotic, over-thinking side showing through. Help?

/tl;dr

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[lupinelullaby.livejournal.com]

Everyone else has already given great answers! But I'd like to share how I trim.

Usually after my menstrual cycle I'll clean up a bit, for comfort reasons mostly, because I am quite hairy (dark coarse hair at that). I just take a pair of small beard trimmer scissors and trim the hair down short. It feels a bit rougher this way, but it keeps it neat and out of the way. How short you want it is totally up to you. After that I'll shave the 'bikini line'. Basically, any hair that is outside the V of my pubic area. I don't shave much more than that usually, because having dark, coarse hair that grows incredibly fast makes shaving very uncomfortable. I get ingrown hairs and it feels very stubbly usually within the same day, heh.

If you'd like to get an idea of what different styles of shaving look like, if you're comfortable with the idea, you may want to look at some pornography. Although porn should rarely be a real life guide, I have noticed that quite a few different shaving practices are used. From completely bare to just barely trimmed to funky shapes like hearts and stars.

And shaving doesn't cause hair to grow in thicker or darker. That is actually a myth. =)

[oursadhearts.livejournal.com]

This. Definitely. :D

[bezsmertni.livejournal.com]

In addition to pornography, a gallery of photos of female genital piercings can be helpful. I might be wrong on this, because I don't typically use photos to masturbate, but I reckon piercing photos might also be less touched up than porn.

[lupinelullaby.livejournal.com]

Oh! Excellent idea! I remember it was a piercing photo that let me know, that yes... the majority of women do get those red bumps. I'm not alone. And it doesn't make me gross. Whereas porn often airbrushes photos to make the skin look perfect and spotless.