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[hastoknow.livejournal.com]

Soooo I have about zero experience with sex. I've made out with guys, and that's it, until now.

Recently, I just started sort of maybe kind of seeing this boy, and we've been fooling around. It's all fine and dandy and lovely, except for the fact that I'm kind of self conscious about my pubic hair. I don't trim or shave or wax or anything, since I've never had a need to before, and now I'm super worried he's going to think I'm super gross or hairy.

This is exacerbated by the fact that every time we start getting intense and a little more "hands-on" with the making out, he says that he really wants to go down on me. He's probably said this a million times now, and I am so freaked out that if I say yes he'll be totally squicked out by the hair.

I'm not THAT hairy of a person: it's not like a jungle down there or anything, but I just want to trim and make it a little neater, but I have NO IDEA how to or where to even begin or what it's supposed to look like.




...so, yes, this is my neurotic, over-thinking side showing through. Help?

/tl;dr

Comments

[jenn-possible.livejournal.com]

It won't make the hair grow back differently, but it can feel "rougher" because you've cut the tapered end off into more of a flat shape, which doesn't feel as soft. It's difficult to explain without a visual :)

But anyway, that's why a lot of people prefer waxing - since the hair is pulled out at the root, it grows back tapered and feels softer.

As far as what you ought to do about your pubic hair, it's really up to you. Personally, I think that having more hair gets in the way and decreases my sensitivity, but that's just me. Some people are the opposite, and no hair is too sensitive for them. I generally wax, but if it's been a long time between waxes, I trim with nail scissors.

Also, shaving does not increase your risk of contracting STIs. I suppose it's possible that blood/semen borne pathogens could enter a cut from shaving more easily, but that seems a little unlikely, especially if you're using condoms. A lot of the more common STIs, like herpes and HPV, are from skin-to-skin contact anyway.

[awriterswindow.livejournal.com]

Waxing really really hurt me. But perhaps that's just me. I got bruises.