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[hastoknow.livejournal.com]

Soooo I have about zero experience with sex. I've made out with guys, and that's it, until now.

Recently, I just started sort of maybe kind of seeing this boy, and we've been fooling around. It's all fine and dandy and lovely, except for the fact that I'm kind of self conscious about my pubic hair. I don't trim or shave or wax or anything, since I've never had a need to before, and now I'm super worried he's going to think I'm super gross or hairy.

This is exacerbated by the fact that every time we start getting intense and a little more "hands-on" with the making out, he says that he really wants to go down on me. He's probably said this a million times now, and I am so freaked out that if I say yes he'll be totally squicked out by the hair.

I'm not THAT hairy of a person: it's not like a jungle down there or anything, but I just want to trim and make it a little neater, but I have NO IDEA how to or where to even begin or what it's supposed to look like.




...so, yes, this is my neurotic, over-thinking side showing through. Help?

/tl;dr

Comments

[hastoknow.livejournal.com]

What a rational response to my oh-so-frantic post. That does make the most sense, doesn't it? I will admit to a ridiculous fear of talking about these subjects, though. I'm the sort who gets red and flustered and ends up sounding like a total moron. It's something I'm working on. He's been exceedingly patient and nice about it though, reacting to my total lack of experience and naivete with no judgment, candid answers, and a calm demeanor, so I should really take advantage and get over this silly fear I have of talking about this stuff out loud.


On another note, do you trim at all then, or do you just leave it alone?

[shadowobsessed.livejournal.com]

eh, I used to trim, but I pretty much gave up. I save that sort of thing for if I'm going swimming or whatever. Really, I'm just lazy.

and honestly, it takes a lot of work to be fully honest and say those types of things. I thought that I'd never be able to ask someone out, but I've done it. Now I'm comfortable with telling my partner what I like or dislike, or what I'd like to try, so we can have a better experience. Once you get over your silly barriers, it makes things quite easier and you'll have wished that you did it sooner. :D If you love them and they love you, I'm sure they'll accept whatever you have to say, no matter how silly sounding it might come out.

[hastoknow.livejournal.com]

Ahhh yeah...did the hair end up growing back more than it was before, or was that never really an issue?

Yeah, in the relationship realm I'm a complete wuss. Go figure, I can go up to complete strangers and ask them to donate money to a cause they've never heard of before, but I can't even ask someone I like about something like this.

And hahahaha it can't quite be classified as love, I don't think...we aren't even officially dating. We just have an almost explosive chemistry that makes it hard to concentrate on anything else.

[roseant.livejournal.com]

"Plus, shaving gives you an increased risk of contracting STD's"

Probably if you shave right before and you cut yourself. This probably wouldn't happen with an electric razor.