This is getting scary for me.

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Okay what if you were friends with a guy that was having lots of trouble in his life , was depress that he just turn 29 never had more then two girlfriends in his life and was still a virgin. What if one night you two had spend the whole night tegether while drinking listning to him talk about problem sand decided to have pity sex with him to ease his pain of never having a sex before. After it was all done you tell him that it was nice but was never going to happen again, it just a one tiime thing and thought that everthing was great between you to. Well the next dat you get weird text message and phone call form the guy wanted to know what you are doing, do you want to hang out with him at first you think it sweet but decline the offer.

When you hang out around friends he wants to be all touching feeling with you, ask you about what your thinking about and keep on bugging you to go on a date with him. Then after awhile he starts telling people that you two are dating each other and mailing gifts to you. It been going on for two weeks and you try to give the guy a hint that your not interested in him like that and that it was just a one time thing. But he refuse to accept that as a answer been trying harder to win you over with buying you jewelry, but still tell him nicely that you can't accept them.

Well now you are in a relationship with somebody and he still hoping to win you over and it starting to scare you alittle that he stole a picture from your apartment when you had last a group of friends over and he was there. But you didn't find that out until today.People tell you to call the cops on him, but you tell them that he not a threat to you and it will go away eventaully.

I just need to find a way to tell him bluntly and harshly, while beeing being alittle nice to him that he driving me crazy with what he doing to win my affection and I'm in a relationship. But I'm trying to write down what to say to him to make my point clrear to him that I'm not interested in him and just want to be friends.

Thanks

Also is there a way to stop heavy menstrual bleeding from leaking on you bedsheet even if you do wear a pad and extra layers of underwear to try to stop it. This is my first time I had this and my poor bed sheet are getting soak mostly every night.

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[bashfulbanshee.livejournal.com]

For heavy menstrual bleeding:

This is not really very cheap or quick in the short run, but if you think you might experience heavy bleeding for a while, you could always get a really big long cloth pad. Homemade Mama is very popular with her products:

http://hyenacart.com/HomemadeMama/
Look into the ultimate pads. They're huuuge. And you don't need as much coverage with cloth compared to disposable pads because the blood tends to stay in the cloth more rather than slosh around in the plastic weave top of disposables. If you're worried about washing it, you can just throw it into the washing machine on cold as long as you're not using fabric softener and you'll be fine-- the blood won't stain your other clothes. It's still smaller than washing an entire towel.

For your friend who won't get the message:

Yeah, your main goal is you to say you don't want him as bluntly as possible.

"I'm sorry, that sex one night was a one-time deal. I wanted you to feel better that night, but I don't want to be with you. We can be friends, but there is no chance I'd date you. You're not a bad person, but you should try your luck with other people, because this is a dead end. Your extra attention is making me uncomfortable, you seriously can't woo me over. Stop it and be normal. If you can't be normal, I don't think we can be friends."

Basically, you should just give him an ultimatum: Stop being a creep or else I'll never talk to you again. He's desperate and thick-headed. If you don't hurt him, he won't get it. Tell this to him face-to-face, and it's probably a good idea to do it in a public place, like a coffee shop. Make sure you have a good friend a couple of buildings over, so just in case something goes wrong--you at least have instant moral support or someone who can call help.

I'm really worried about your situation, I don't know how much of a threat this guy is and I am really not trying to judge him, but desperate people do desperate things, and it's better to be safe than sorry. Ending his creepy behaviour and protecting yourself and your loved ones are your priorities. Not hurting his feelings or saving the friendship are distant fifths at the most, don't even think about that part. Please take good care of yourself.