A bit of First Time trouble

[sockofnether.livejournal.com]

Well, hello everyone, first time posting here, though I've lurked for a long time and learned a lot from this community.

Basically, this is more of a 'just to be safe' question I am posing you. I lost my virginity yesterday night (about some 36 hours ago) in totally unexpected circumstances and neither of us had a condom in handy - I'm not extremely worried about it since I was in my 2nd to 3rd day of menstruating and he only got in once, after which there was some amount of pain and blood and he didn't insist to finish off in any way (I feel I was really lucky in this matter). And although he claimed he'd had his 'balls cut off', to quote directly, I know that it can reverse, depending on what method was used. Now I'd rather not take any form of EC as I've heard there can be nasty side effects but I still want to hear your thoughts on the matter.

Still, my main problem is that it still hurts down there; I'm pretty sure (though not 100%) it's either the clitoris or the vulval vestibule that is still tender and hurts and my theory is that it's from overstimulation, it hurt sometimes when he was using his fingers a bit too roughly, though again I might be wrong.

And thanks a lot for any answers I might get!

Comments

[domin8ed.livejournal.com]

I just had to say that I LOVE your icon.

[sockofnether.livejournal.com]

Haha thanks a lot, I made it myself - always good to see some fellow Finnish lovers! ;D

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

As far as whether or not to take EC, naturally it's up to you. The chance of becoming pregnant on Cycle Day 2 or Cycle Day 3 when no ejaculation occured in the vagina is pretty low. Not nonexistent, but that's quite unlikely to be within a fertile window (one study found that about 4% of females were entering a fertile window by cycle day 4 -- which doesn't mean that 4% of females would become pregnant then, just that they theoretically could), and if ejaculation did not occur in the vagina, that does lower the chances quite a bit.

So if you're comfortable with some amount of risk (which there is any time one has genital-genital contact with someone of the opposite sex, really), then I'd think you'd be fine in this case not to take EC.

For question two, if you aren't really used to vaginal penetration, or if he was particularly rough with vulvar stimulation, it can definitely cause things to be quite sore down there for awhile -- so just take it easy, treat it gently, and it should feel better soon!

[sockofnether.livejournal.com]

Thanks a million for your answer, it quelled my slight uneasiness a bit. This all is a lesson to always have a condom prepared 'cause you can never know - I was aware that even petting has some risks, and you can never be too careful.

[ebayer.livejournal.com]

If he says he had a vasectomy and that is true, you shouldn't worry.

p.s. Condom next time, for protection against any STI risk!

[sockofnether.livejournal.com]

Yes, I've learned my lesson that I -always- have to be prepared. This experience really just came out of the blue for me, I really wasn't expecting it, having met the guy just that night. Thanks for the advice!

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[sockofnether.livejournal.com]

Thanks for letting me know it was mandatory, I'll keep it in mind in the future!