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[ayearofmistakes.livejournal.com]

next tuesday will be my first time going to the gyno. i'm kind of nervous. i'm going to get bc pills and my mom doesn't know whether or not i'll have to get an examination or not. but my question pertains to virginity. i lost it awhile ago, but my mother thinks i still have it. my question is if you tell the doctor you are a virgin, could they tell if you lied using tests? i know there's the whole doctor-patient trust thing, but i'm just wondering? i'd really like to know.

p.s. is this a valid question for this community? i'm new.

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[perplexxi.livejournal.com]

no one can tell if you're a virgin or not.

however, i would strongly advise AGAINST lying to your doctor. if you've been sexually active, you need to start having annual pap tests. that's one of the responsibilities of being a woman. if you lie to the doctor, he/she may see no need for a pap - a test develop to catch early signs of cervical cancer.

your doctor cannot tell your mother about your sexual status, it's against the law.

and don't be nervous, the exam takes two minutes - MAX. a little discomfort but it's over quick!

good luck.

[ayearofmistakes.livejournal.com]

i wasn't planning on lying, just curious.
but thank you.

[kayeyem.livejournal.com]

I honestly don't know if a doctor can tell, other than whether or not your hymen is intact--which you could lose that any number of ways or simply be born with out...

But they aren't going to be doing any "virginity" tests--not to mention, in most cases (all, I believe) the doctor will ask if you want your mother in the room. If you aren't comfortable with your mother being in the room with you, and don't want to say that while she's there, call ahead, and ask them to make a note of it. They've very nice! Promise. :)

As always, honesty is the best policy, ESPECIALLY with your doctor. You should talk to him/her about your sexual activity, so that they can a. suggest a birth control method that best fits you and your life style, (patch vs depo vs pill etc) and b. check for any sex-related issues (for example, a UTI might be caused by sex, etc--and if your doctor knows what's going on in your life, then they will be able to give you better advice and more accurate diagnosis's (in the case of the UTI, they might ask if there was a corrolation between you having sex and the UTI's appearing, etc. If you tell them that you aren't sexually active, well, they obivously won't have that information.

oh. wow. sorry, seems like I got on a bit of a soap box. Sorry. :)

[ayearofmistakes.livejournal.com]

haha, yeah i already told my mom
she's not coming in there with me.
gracias.

[appletrees.livejournal.com]

you do need to have an exam, but it's pretty quick and easy.

there is no possible way for the doctor to tell if you are a virgin or not. i suppose the only way to tell would be if you had unprotected sex within the 24 hours before your appointment, but other than that, no. many women can tear their hymen through sports/physical activity, and some women are even born without a hymen or with a very small one. so, really, there isn't any way for them to tell.

it is important to tell your doctor what's going on, if they give you a form to fill out, just put the correct info on there and write on the form that they should not mention anything to your parents.

[ayearofmistakes.livejournal.com]

quick and easy - wonderful.
thank you.

[childishdreams.livejournal.com]

before you start the pill you do need to have a pap smear. they want to make sure everything is normal, because they don't want to start you on the pap if something is abnormal. i'd also request tests for STD's if I were you. You might want to try this new one they have for HIV testing where they swab the inside of your mouth instead of doing a blood draw. you literally have to say you want to be tested for STD's to get tested, but I'd do it just to be on the safe side, especially since you have had sex.

if you're getting the pill wouldn't your mom know that you aren't a virgin? or did you tell her that you're getting them to regulate your period? they can't tell whether you're a virgin or not, because with how active girls are these days sometimes the hymen is not intact. but, you do want to tell your gyno that you've had sex, it's important to your health that she knows that you've had sex. she cannot, by law, tell your mother anything. but just for your safety you should tell her about your sexual history. when i first went to see a gyno i told her because it's important if you want to have kids later that they make sure nothing is wrong.

[ayearofmistakes.livejournal.com]

i wish it was a she-doctor. it's
definately a man. no, i told my
mom that i wanted to be "safe"
because i've been with my s.o.
for almost eight months. but, she
probably does suspect. thanks.

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[childishdreams.livejournal.com]

I have a male ob/gyn, he's pretty cool too. usually they call a female in there before he starts the exam, and if he doesn't you can always request it.

[perplexxi.livejournal.com]

i have a male GYN, too. and to be honest, he's wonderful. males GYNs will always have a female nurse or assistant in the room with them to make you feel more comfortable. and if you don't understand something (what they're saying or what they're about to do to you) -- don't be afraid to ASK. they're there to help you, and will be more than happy to explain the procedure if you want.

again, good luck!

[ayearofmistakes.livejournal.com]

that makes me feel better. :)

[desolationangel.livejournal.com]

I had to have the exam because I was sexually active when I went on the pill...

my sister didn't have an exam when she started the pill....I don't know her reasons....but I know she didn't have an exam....

so it depends...but don't lie to the doctor....and the exam isn't really that bad...it doesn't take long....

~*~Angie~*~

[ayearofmistakes.livejournal.com]

my intentions weren't to lie.
i was just curious on that
aspect. but, thanks.

[my-stars.livejournal.com]

never ever lie to your doctor. EVER. it really could be dangerous. and yes, the doctor would be able to tell, because yr hymn is broken during sex. you will have to get an examination, but dont be nervous. the doctor cant tell your mom you arent a virgin. just make sure you are honest with the doctor, even if you are embarrased about some of the questions. and if you smoke, make sure you tell yr doctor that, too. good luck, sweety :)

[ayearofmistakes.livejournal.com]

once again, i wasn't going to lie.
i'm just a curious little girl.
and i don't smoke. thanks.

[isolt.livejournal.com]

No, the doctor wouldn't be able to tell, because there are all sorts of other ways to break your hymen (bike riding accidents, gymnastics, etc...). Furthermore, sex doesn't always break the hymen - it could just stretch it. So a non-virgin could have an intact hymen, and a virgin might have broken hers as a child. This means there's no good way to tell.