men declining sex

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

i never fail to feel hurt when my BF declines sex. it's super silly because when i'm not in the mood he is completely accepting. BUT, if i initiate and he turns me down it becomes a huge issue for me. as in, we need to have a 2 hour long conversation for me to feel okay about it.

anyone else this way? it makes me feel bad because he's a person not a sex machine and he is TOTALLY entitled to his own personal sex drive, it just ends up making me feel vulnerable and stupid when i want sex and he doesn't.

also, we have great sex all the time and it is the most healthy and fufilling sexual relationship i've ever had.

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[jacquelinewas17.livejournal.com]

I can relate. I have a kind-of absurd sex drive, I'm pretty much ready to go any time. The dude I'm banging, on the other hand, does not have this same ridiculous sex drive. It makes me feel kind of irrationally upset sometimes when I really want to play and he's not into it because whenever he wants it, I'm naked in the blink of an eye and ready to go. Our sex is amazing, and plentiful by most people's standards, but I've been masturbating on average 3+ times a day since probably before middle school. It's not an actual problem for us because I don't get very upset, I just feel a little stupid and burdensome (which I have acknowledged is irrational).