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[xxannonymousxx.livejournal.com]

Hi, I was wondering if someone could answer my question. I'm 16 and don't know too much about this stuff. For the past few days I've had this uncomfortable feeling in my vagina. I don't really know how to describe it, it's almost like um I would say an itch kinda in my vagina. Sorry I can't really describe it any better, does anyone have any idea of what could possibly be wrong with me? Thank you so much for your help.

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[xxannonymousxx.livejournal.com]

Yes, I have been sexually active for about two months. I really want to go to a doctor, not only for this but just to make sure everything is ok because I am newly sexually active. My problem is I don't know how to propose this to my mom. I honestly don't want her to know that I am sexually active because knowing her she would flip her shit.

I would also like to know if it would be a stupid idea to continue to have sex while I have this?

[starthieving.livejournal.com]

Tell her you want to be on birth control because your periods are too irregular/heavy, you have acne, something like that.

[xxannonymousxx.livejournal.com]

I have because honeslty my periods are irregular, sometimes extremely heavy and I am always extremely and ridiculous emotional. Her response to this was I was the same way when I was young I had to deal with it so you can too. And to the emotional thing she told me it was all in my mind, that I wasn't the only women that had her period and that it's under my control.

She's impossible.

[xxannonymousxx.livejournal.com]

ridiculously*

[starthieving.livejournal.com]

How old are you? If you're over 18 you can go by yourself and your doctor is not allowed to share information unless you give him/her permission. I guess she might find out you had been going through insurance EOBs but you could just tell her that you were fed up with the period issue and decided to go yourself.
Also, look into Planned Parenthood. I don't know anything about them because there's not one anywhere near I live, but I assume they have a website with some info about their services.

[xxannonymousxx.livejournal.com]

I am 16 so I can't go by myself but I have given Planned Parenthood some thouhgt, I just need to look into it.

[jenn-possible.livejournal.com]

You could also try a county health clinic if there's one near you. That's where I went when I was 16.

[archangelbeth]

If you have irregular periods, you could ask to go and be tested for hypothyroidism. That was, apparently, one of the symptoms of my untreated hypo. (I was in denial about my hypothyroidism for a long while; now I'm an annoying convert. Harmless, mostly, though.)

You could also probably ask for privacy and explain to the doctor that you were concerned about a yeast infection or BV -- the former, at the least, can happen for any number of reasons, depending on the woman, such as wiping back to front, taking a bubble bath, getting soap near the vagina, or having a reaction to a detergent perfume in the undies.

If you do have a YI, having sex could give your partner the YI, and even if he didn't have much in the way of symptoms, he could pass it back to you. If you're using condoms, this is less of an issue, though not no issue -- the part of his body not covered in the condom could come into contact with yours and the yeasties might manage to colonize. (When an oral/skin YI is transmitted between a nursing mother's breast and her baby's mouth, it's called thrush.)

[jocelina.livejournal.com]

You don't necessarily have to tell her that you are sexually active -- you could just say "Hey Mom, I think that I may have a yeast infection or something." You definitely don't have to be sexually active in order to get a yeast infection -- they can happen to anyone.

I'd say it's probably a good idea to wait until you know the cause of the discomfort to have any sort of penetrative intercourse (that is, penis-in-vagina, or PIV sex, or fingering, or use of dildoes or anything else along those lines). It does suck to have to wait, but it's probably better in the long run.

Do you by chance use spermicidal condoms, or spermicide on its own as a contraceptive? For some women, spermicide can be super-irritating to the vagina and vulva, so that is another possible cause.

[xxannonymousxx.livejournal.com]

We have used spermicidal condoms probably three or four times.

I have another question, sorry for know pretty much nothing about this stuff.

I know a gynocologist (sp?) can tell when you're not a virgin but do they tell your parents?

[jocelina.livejournal.com]

I have another question, sorry for know pretty much nothing about this stuff.

No need to apologize! I think it's awesome that you're asking questions -- it's the best way to learn about any subject, and here in VP we are all about asking and answering questions about sexual health. Ask all the questions you want, and we'll be happy to answer them to the best of our ability. :)

This is kind of a tricky question. A gynecologist, or any health care provider who performs a pelvic exam, can tell whether or not a person has a hymen, which is typically viewed as a sign (or the sign) of virginity. However, some women are born without hymens, or lose them through non-sexual means. So really, a medical professional cannot know for sure. Most will ask whether or not you are sexually active, though, because it's important for them to know in order to give you the best possible treatment.

They definitely should not share any information about your sex life with your parents, especially if you ask your individual health care provider not to do so.

[bleedingcherub.livejournal.com]

I really want to go to a doctor, not only for this but just to make sure everything is ok because I am newly sexually active. My problem is I don't know how to propose this to my mom.

You could go to a Planned Parenthood alone, or you could tell her you think you have a YI. She's not likely to sit in on your chat with the doc.