Update, thx for the support y'all

[edrecovery.livejournal.com]

I feel a little strange admitting this, though I don't know why . . . I started seeing a therapist. I decided it would be good to talk about the disability issue and have a place to vent "safely."

Anyhow, my third appointment was tonight at 7 EST.

I told her all about the doc thing, in even more detail than you got ;o) and she was PISSED! She said he DEFINITELY crossed ethical boundaries (not respecting my wishes, manipulating others to do his bidding, etc. etc.), and if I allowed him to care for me after that I am allowing him to "victimize" me. She said many docs have a "god complex," frankly they think they are demi-gods. She is SO happy I'm not willing to put up with his BS. (Heads up to the other VP gal who called me "strong.")

Anyhow, I fessed up to wondering if he has that complex BECAUSE he is good. He is certainly one of the few practiced and qualified people to do laparascopically-assisted vaginal hysterectomies.

Sooooooooooo, what will it be? Quick fix, help the fam, lose self respect . . . skilled physician (I'm sure there are others).

Keeping my appointment tomorrow out of self-preservation (insurance). If things don't work out I'll go to a different practice/hospital (all the other OB/GYNs in this town work for the SAME office-small town, monopoly).

Wellllllll, hubby's turn.

Comments

[erinpinkhair.livejournal.com]

my doc has crossed ethical boundries with me.. he used to touch me and unsnap my bra during visits. once when i was at work he came through my check out lane and began talking to his wife about my medical case without even acknowleding the fact that i was right there, scanning his groceries. he's a terrible man and if i wanted to i could cause him to loose his medical license. unstead i'm switching doctors... i hate him so much.

ACK!

[edrecovery.livejournal.com]

Hun, this is SERIOUS stuff!

I actually made a FACE of HORROR when I read about your experience(s)!

Thumbs up to you on changing physicians.

Once you do so and get your records transferred, I would challenge you to report this situation. Unfortunately, his license probably would NOT be pulled, erg, but a report would be there for the looking if/when something more comes up. This crosses over into sexual harrassment if not outright CSC. THEN there is the issue of BREECHING CONFIDENTIALITY!!!!

Okay, anyhow, I hear you; and I'm listening. Thanks for sharing your experience here (with me). I hope my anger can be somewhat "cleansing" for you. What he did was WRONG! and I'm so sorry you were treated this way.

Re: ACK!

[erinpinkhair.livejournal.com]

it happened about 2 years ago, when i visited him for a viral infection over my break he was a complete jerk to me (i had by then just transfered to another doctor so i could have a specialist work with me on my asthma, rather than him), he didn't listen to me at all, he just walked into the room and said "what now?" i was so upset. then he perscribed me medication that he knew i was allergic to.. it's on my record. he tried to explain that i wouldn't get a reaction because this was different and i wasn't on this other medication that he claimed caused my previous reaction. well i was alergic. i was up from 7-1am with terrible cramps. i swore i was gonna die... it was so awful. i haven't been to him since, he's still my primary physician but i refuse to see him. i finally talked my mother into getting me a new doctor. because of HMO's it's such a pain in the ass... i wish i had my first doctor back.. she was so great and i didn't realize it till she was gone.

[poseidon210.livejournal.com]

eek!
dear, that is NOT one of those things that you just let blow over. switching doctors is an EXCELLENT idea. but i must suggest you write up a report on that evil doctor. because if he does that to you, chances are he does that to other patients. and that is not a good thing :(