Extraordinarily frustrating issue

[nothappened.livejournal.com]

I don't have a clitoris.
Or, it seems to be that way. A few years ago I read up on vaginas and discovered I didn't have that bit that's crucial and so important...
to desbribe further, where it should be there is a hood but nothing else... and nothing happens or shows up if I try to expose it.
I've never orgasmed, and during sex usually fake it or explain the issue to my partner... g-spot isn't working for me at this point.
I'm hoping to see a gyno soon but before I do does anyone have some kind of advice or explanation?

Comments

[wrenna.livejournal.com]

Under normal circumstances, my clitoris is tiny and once-upon-a-time I had the same issues that you have now (I don't have much of a hood to speak of either!).
I was about 20 before I discovered it, and before I had my first orgasm.
My advice depends entirely on how comfortable you are with yourself... but get a mirror, and look. Then touch around the hood area, whilst still looking in the mirror. It should feel a bit different... more sensitive.
When you are aroused, it's likely to be more prominent, so you may need to indulge in some masturbation or get your partner to help you out.
To be honest, I did my "clit finding expedition" before the days of VP, so I was naive, didn't know much about my body and thought the area where my clit is was my urethral opening (pee hole)!
Personally speaking, after I found it, I never lost it again.
Persevere.

[nothappened.livejournal.com]

thanks for the advice, i'll have a go

[sprtwrid.livejournal.com]

maybe its shy?

for some people they can be very very tiny, but with some gentle coaxing (or vigorous masturbation)they will swell up and be much more readily visable. Mine is very shrouded under a hood (think dark wizard with his hood covering his face) and though mine is a decent size, it is not sensitive or anything. It takes some dedication on my part to get it in the program and performing the way i like.

Spend some time feeling around, you might need gentle pressure, roughness, or just a well lubed finger running over it for a bit. I generally dont get clitoral orgasms; all mine is good for is cracking us up when my legs twitch :P

[paraxeni.livejournal.com]

Ah my girlfriend has the twitchy-leg problem. I've lost count of the number of times I've had to ice my face after sex because she's kneed me in the nose or eye. Ouch!

[sprtwrid.livejournal.com]

twitchy legs can be funny.. his biggest complaint i think would be the whole leg lock scenario. Silly boy likes to breathe.. go figure

(sorry i had to be crude on that one :P)

[paraxeni.livejournal.com]

*giggle* I totally feel his pain. Whereas I can orgasm anywhere, she has to be on her back with her legs locked too. I've had more than my fair share of near suffocation incidents! Luckily I'm asthmatic, so I think I've evolved to survive on very little air. My poor nose looks a bit squished though. Ahh they don't bloody well mention that in sex ed.