Burning After Condomless Sex

[dirteelilsecret.livejournal.com]

About 4 or 5 months ago, I started using the pill, and upon using it, my boyfriend and I stopped using condoms. The first time we had sex without a condom was fine... until the end, when he came in me. It burned... really badly. I figured well maybe it is just because it was out first time without a condom. But the same thing kept happening everytime we did it. If he pulls out before he finishes, it doesn't burn. I asked a friend about it and she said it never burns for her. Any ideas on what could be wrong with me? Any help with be appreciated. Thanks.

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[archangelbeth]

You are very probably allergic to his semen -- google on semen allergy. It is rare, but there are women who have it. You may be allergic to just the proteins in his semen, or all men's semen. It can be treated, but the treatment requires -- aside from a doctor's supervision! -- daily (!!) insertion of semen to maintain the lack of reaction.

[falnfenix]

it sounds like you might be allergic to his semen.

[1337chix0r.livejournal.com]

Allergies, dear. =(.

Stop with the unprotected sex. >_<. Just because you're on BC doesn't mean you still can't get pregnant. Lots of women still do. (Not trying to be mean/scare you, I just see it a lot). It might be better to just do pull out. =/ Especially since his semen irritates you.

Good luck.

[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

The risk of getting pregnant on hormonal birth control taken perfectly is EXTREMELY small. Do you see it a lot in people who don't take their pills very well? Because it just doesn't happen often at all in people who take their birth control correctly, and implying it does is being pointlessly alarmist, in my opinion.

To the OP: it is perfectly safe pregnancy-protection-wise to have condomless sex with ejaculation. However, because it sounds likely that you are allergic to his semen, withdrawal may be more comfortable for you. But you don't need to use it for pregnancy protection purposes (though you can if you want another method for backup).

[h2ok.livejournal.com]

If she's on the pill, then she is absolutely *not* having unprotected sex.

[leaksgeek.livejournal.com]

She is when it comes to STDS.

[dirteelilsecret.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend and I are both clean, and we've only been with each other.

[leaksgeek.livejournal.com]

you are not supposed to use the word clean around here to refer to being std free.

[archangelbeth]

As has been said: with perfect use, the chance of pregnancy while using HBC is in the Very Small range. Less than 1%, I believe.

Now, with as many people taking it as are taking it, the laws of statistics pretty well mandate that someone is going to get pregnant on HBC once in a while, even taken perfectly. Some women just rolled those dice and got the crit-fail numbers. Other women have typical use statistics, which have a higher chance of pregnancy -- didn't take it quite on time, extended the placebo week by accident, forgot a pill entirely several times in a month, took the "wrong" sort of antibiotics and didn't use backup protection... And again, the laws of statistics pretty much dictate that with so many women taking it "typically," there will be some who get pregnant.

In all honesty, the only 100% for sure no pregnancy barring supernatural acts method is abstinence from PIV sex. (One does not get pregnant from swallowing, for instance...) We all just have to pick the odds that we prefer.

[archangelbeth]

Is that what does it? Huh! Roll of the genetic dice, then, perhaps? O:>

Unless one knows one has a family history of this, though... Is there a way to test for it? High alcohol tolerance? Without a clue, it'd probably seem like a roll of the dice. O:(

Got any URLs on the topic? I'd be curious to see if there's been any research published on the web.

[archangelbeth]

Could be -- though it would have to be tested with all pain-killers. E.g., Tylenol barely takes the edge off my headaches and my menstrual cramps laugh mockingly at Tylenol and aspirin. Ibuprofen is my friiiiieeeeend, because it takes the pain away and -- though I do need two pills and not just one -- lasts the expected amount of time.

No URL links? O:(
Maybe I'll figure out something to google on at some point. A bit brain-dead at the moment.

[dirteelilsecret.livejournal.com]

Thank you for your opinion. I'm not using pulling out to help me not get pregnant, only because it burns when he comes inside of me.
I also believe that if I'm part of that one percent that does get pregnant, that it was just something that was supposed to happen.

[archangelbeth]

Oh, I'm totally with you on that point! Pill's got an excellent success rate, especially with perfect use.

I'm just off on a side-track pondering whether it might be possible to identify people who might be at risk of a "perfect use pregnancy" ahead of time -- sorry. Sort of a thread derailment. *sheepish look*

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Specifically, when you say "Stop with the unprotected sex. >_<," it's inaccurate, and it substitutes your judgment about the OP's contraceptive choices for the OP's. Since hormonal birth control is designed to be used as a sole method of contraception, sex on it is not "unprotected" with respect to pregnancy. Additionally, especially since the OP's concerns had nothing to do with contraceptive protection or pregnancy risk, it's inappropriate to tell her to do or to stop doing something in that regard.

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[min-song.livejournal.com]

yea, that happens to me too. it burns, but it's definitely bearable. heh, i think it's worth the burning to have the condomless sex though. i love it.

[trinity85.livejournal.com]

word. lol

[2ndplacevict0ry.livejournal.com]

I am not sure what it is but I just wanted to tell you you are not alone. this happens to me too and i've asked my friends who are all like "uhh no that doesnt happen to me" lol
sometimes it is so bad that i am like rolling around practically crying.
so yea we have been using the pull out method lately. I wish i knew how to get rid of this too so i could just have him finish inside me naturally and not have to break the rythym

[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

Forgot to mention this in my first comment, but I get burning after sex as well most of the time. Most of the time it's not too bad, especially if I wipe myself off with a cold, damp washcloth a few minutes afterwards. Occasionally it's been pretty uncomfortable and I imagine that those times I might've had rougher sex than usual. I think in my case I might get small tears in my vagina during sex, combined with a possible sensitivity to semen, and so that makes it burny. But since it's not usually unbearable I usually don't worry about it. Sometimes it does mean I can't have sex twice in a row though. :(

[primere.livejournal.com]

i agree, a cold damp facewasher does the trick after sex when it burns (also happens to me when a condom isn't used)