snappy vagina

[chum-bucket.livejournal.com]

There's this girl that I tend to hook up with a lot at various parties in the Sussex county area. During both oral and intercourse, her vagina tends to sort of convulse and squeeze me. I used to think these were orgasms, but they are not, unfortunately. I like it, I'm not complaining, but what is going on exactly when this happens? Sometimes, if the angle is right, one of her vaginal squeezes will throw me out of her,almost as if she was giving birth! I know a little about kegel muscles and such, but this seems more involuntary on her part. Anyone familiar with this? Am I doing a good job by causing these convulsions?

Update: Geez, I only mentioned the county, I didn't identify anyone even remotely. Just from my 2 second google search, there is a Sussex county in NJ, DE, VA, not to mention parts of Europe.

Comments

[yogaswirl.livejournal.com]

I agree -- maybe she is contracting those muscles on purpose. And yes, why did you give a location?!

[polymexina.livejournal.com]

can i ask why you gave a location?

location, location, location

[chum-bucket.livejournal.com]

ok, the mention of location, is irrelevant, however, the "snappy" lady in question reads this community, so I mentioned it just as a little joke for her. I HAVE mentioned it to her, and it's just as much a mystery to her as it is to me, so this is where all your wisdom comes in. She seemed almost unaware that she does it.

[alwaysborrowed.livejournal.com]

Some people just tense up when they're going to orgasm, guys and girls both.

[blacksambuca.livejournal.com]

Yeah, and not even just for orgasm. It can just be a pleasure thing. And if she has particularly strong vaginal muscles, for whatever reason, whether kegels or just naturally, it could squeeze ya right out.

But uh, to the OP... the fact that you specified a location... so not relevant. But nonetheless, it's definitely not a sign of a bad job. But I think you should ask her whether it's a sign of a good job or not. ;)

[beachbanshee.livejournal.com]

Before I had children I could voluntarily clamp down the muscles of my vagina. Some partners liked it, some did not. As for the Sussex County thing. Maybe the OP thinks she is anomaly and famous for her ability to clamp down. Sussex County is rural NJ and I spent many of my wild days in local bars up there.

[subarashiine.livejournal.com]

Well personally, I love tensing up the muscles down there during the sex- it feels really awesome! She could just be doing that :D


Also, I'm just really confused about why posting a location is such a big deal to many people who commented..? I'm totally not bashing, I'm wondering!

[subarashiine.livejournal.com]

AH hahah there shouldn't be a 'the' before sex XD Typo :D

[littlebluegrrl.livejournal.com]

haha..that made me lol, for real.

[subarashiine.livejournal.com]

hahah same here, I was like 'uh.. what the hell did I just type??' XD

[astraevirgo.livejournal.com]

It could be potentially upsetting because the OP is not protecting the identity of the girl in question? I think it may violate the safe-place rules.

[lizs18.livejournal.com]

I tend to tense up involuntarily because it feels good to do so, it's become somewhat of a trained response. I like penetration and I like really being able to feel it, and this tends to help.

[alice-007.livejournal.com]

OP, ALL Girls have a variety of muscles 'Down There', Guys Too!
The 2 'Big Groups' act to [#1] 'Tighten', the other Group can 'Pull In' or 'Push Out' - Usually, they just behave like they're on 'Autopilot', but with Concentration and Practice, some girls can control them.
When a girl is Tense or Scared (or Enjoying Herself/Trying!), she can 'Tighten Up', even to the point of making penetration uncomfortable - Or, she can 'Grab'/'Clamp Down On a Penis/Finger(s)/Toy, deliberately or involuntarily, for Pleasure!
The other 'Push-Pull' muscles often contract during Orgasm, and/or some girls can do it 'On Purpose' - Think of 'Queefing' (Pussy Farts), or girls pulling water in/out of a Tub, Pool, or Hot-Tub - Often it's Accidental, but some can learn to Do It by Concentrating/Practice - Lots of Fun, btw, but I'm Girl-Girl (well, 90%), and my GF and I *LOVE* using our 'Ability'!

ASK HER, as has been suggested - If it Feels Good for BOTH of you, Enjoy! I would suggest phrasing your question to her with something like "I'd NEVER want to do anything to hurt you, and I want to make you feel as good as you make me feel..." - and for GOD's Sake, Do NOT make her feel like she's 'Weird' or 'Different'; We're *ALL* DIFFERENT!

Regarding giving out a Location - You sound (to me) a little like you're Bragging! I've heard the phrase 'Snapping'/'Snapper' before, usually as a Joke about a 'Talented' Girl, but told by Guys.

Please Respect Her, and her Privacy! I don't mean to sound 'Harsh', but identification like that can give one or both of you 'Reputations', and those can be Hurtful!

[atalanta0jess.livejournal.com]

I hope this doesn't sound rude, but I wanted to let you know that your frequent capitalization makes your posts difficult for me to read. I enjoy your comments, but have to REALLY concentrate to understand what you are saying because of your unconventional capitalization. Just thought you might want to know. :)

[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

I agree -- once I take the time to read the posts they're usually very helpful, but they are difficult and time-consuming to read. It reminds me of the labels on Dr. Bronner's soap (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/E._H._Bronner).

[alice-007.livejournal.com]

Oops, I do apologize!

The capitalization is a very bad habit, going back many years - My best guess is that I'm compensating for not being able to enunciate or change the inflection of my voice. I will try my best to 'cut back', but old habits are very hard to break - My apologies for any 'future offenses', and please feel free to remind me, if I start 'slipping'!
(we should probably all be grateful that underlining, bold-facing, and italics are not easily accessed here!)

Mea culpa, and Thank You for reminding me, no offense taken!

===

OP, for many of us, anything that even seems to identify a particular person makes us nervous, and we may have over-reacted, slightly. You are correct, there are many "Sussexes", but any reader, in any of these places, might think "Hey! I think he's talking about [Alice, for example]!", and tell a friend... or two.... or three... - and then they tell their friends, and it spreads.
Could you imagine a post about "...a guy from Sussex who wants to wear my panties..." or "...starts crying whenever he has an orgasm...", and somebody thinking it was (or even might be) about you?
True or not, rumors start easily, spread fast, and are impossible to stop!
I don't think anybody thought you were trying to identify a specific person, but any 'details', such as naming a county, makes a misunderstanding much more likely.

- Peace to all! -

[askdrtroy.livejournal.com]

I'm not really adding much, but I'm sure it's just a tightening of the vaginal muscles, of which there are quite a few. A long time ago I dated a woman who was a gymnast. When she orgasmed everything clamped down and it felt like I was hitting a brick wall. Your girl may be very athletic or may just go overboard on practicing her kegel's. You will have to talk to her to see if this is a voluntary or involuntary thing.