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[tindronomel.livejournal.com]

maybe you can share this with me... how many times a month do you have sex? are you single or with a partner? do you feel like you are having less sex now than say, a year ago with the same partner? if yes, what do you think the reasons are?

sorry for all the questions, i'm having a weird time adjusting to a "new" routine, but i'm trying to be understanding.

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[rearrangedfaith.livejournal.com]

not often.
with a partner.
definitely a whole lot less than last year.
because my vagina sucks and sex hurts now.

[minisecret.livejournal.com]

Haven't had sex for a fortnight now, despite being period-free and living with boyfriend of 2.5 years. Having a lot less sex than when we first started going out. His sex-drive is ridiculously lower than mine, something I'm finding very hard to deal with. I guess when we first started going out we'd have sex whenever we could, and now that we always can.. he can't be bothered.

Good luck :)

[tindronomel.livejournal.com]

i know what you mean, but man oh man, why is that?? three days used to be the longest for us not having sex, and now that we live down the street from each other we have sex once a week. that's just..... i don't know, discouraging i guess. also, i feel like the longer i go without sex the more i feel like i could go without it. you know what i mean? it just feels like a hassle, which is an awful thing to say.

[misskrisha.livejournal.com]

less than 20 (with him) / almost daily (solo).
with a live-in partner.
absolutely not, but recent changes in our lives have made sex more like a treat as opposed to the 'meal' it once was.
back when we humped like bunnies, i NEVER jilled off. now, it's like my ambien.

[chaeri.livejournal.com]

we have sex when we want to have sex. i don't know number. if i felt like i wasn't getting what i needed, i'd have a talk with my partner.

[loveofdaisies.livejournal.com]

my fiance and I have been having sex right at a year and we're still pretty much like bunnies. I'm out of town monday-thursday so it's hard to give you a specific estimate, but when I'm home fri-sun we pretty much do it at least once every day (sometimes we skip a day, but sometimes we do it more than once in the same day).

[ravens-circle.livejournal.com]

3 times a month (minus the week I'm bleeding). with a partner and maybe 3-4 times a week solo. I don't know but I hate having sex only 3 times a week. its frustrating.

[ravens-circle.livejournal.com]

a month not a week*

[praeclarus.livejournal.com]

normally: 5 times a month / in a serious, long-term relationship / yes, because of work/school

well it's summer now and my boyfriend lives a couple hours away, but during the school year when i practically live with him (i sleepover most every night), we probably have sex once a week. we used to have sex upwards of 4 times a week, but we have both gotten so busy and his sex drive seems to be lower.

[siren-songs.livejournal.com]

About every other day. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
I live with my boyfriend.
We are definitely having less, but that's due to opposite schedules. It happens.

[xcindster.livejournal.com]

how many times a month do you have sex? about 25 times sometimes more or less.

are you single or with a partner? have a boyfriend.

do you feel like you are having less sex now than say, a year ago with the same partner? not really. i mean it really depends on alot of different things. but honeslty i think its gotten better.

[gemfyre.livejournal.com]

Hrm, a couple of weeks ago we broke a drought, last time we'd had sex was New Year's Eve. We live together and have been together for over 8 years.

When we started having sex it was 3 times a week or so, but now... maybe we're getting some old, married couple syndrome (we're not married, and I'm 27 and he's 30), but we'd rather just cuddle and snuggle than have sex.

We're both fine with that so there's no issues. I'm just missing him right now because he's in town house hunting (he got a job in the city), and I'm stuck out here in the country (because I have a job here, but the contract ends in October).

[ms-empathy.livejournal.com]

I'm in a long distance relationship, so the per month thing doesn't work too well for us, but we have sex at least once a day when we do see each other. I live in MA and my boyfriend lives in CA now, so we'll be seeing each other for about 4 days every other month until I move out there. We're having less sex now overall, because we live so far away, but we're having more sex now when we do see each other than we did a year ago. This is because we have more pent up horniness to release and my vagina has gotten used to having twice a day.

[kalaam.livejournal.com]

phone sex!

[chibisixxie.livejournal.com]

How many times a month? Two, maybe three times (we live in different states)

I have a boyfriend.

I wasn't with my boyfriend last year, so that question doesn't apply to me. I took a vow of celibacy two years before I met him, so, having sex again has been awkward for us.

[sadblueyes.livejournal.com]

i have sex about 25-30 times per month.

live with the boyfriend.

we used to have sex way more. then jobs, and being together all the time came into play.

[kiteless.livejournal.com]

Hmm two partners, we all live together.

It depends on how I am feeling, but generally at least once a week with each. Sometimes more. I have bowel issues so I am not feeling fantastic a lot. I definitely would like to have more sex.

My SO and I have been together for 8 years. We really do have sex less often than we used to, and that is something we need to work on. The reason is that I have/had vestibulitits which made sex VERY painful so I associate sex with my SO as painful. I've had a vestibulectomy, and sex is no longer painful, but it is hard to get out of that mindset.

My OSO and I have been together for 6 months. We have more sex than my SO and I, but less than we did at the beginning. I never had pain issues with my OSO, so it is "easier" for me to have sex more often because I don't associate it with pain.

[firesorceress.livejournal.com]

I'm not really sure, it varies per month. We don't have sex as much on my period because sometimes it's too much of a hassle. Sometimes it's every day, sometimes it's several times a day like on weekends, and sometimes it's every other day or every 3 days. It just depends. In the beginning of our relationship sex hurt sometimes, so that cut it down a bit. So I'm not really sure if it's gone down really. But if it's been 3 days and we haven't I definitly start bringing it up...haha... I'm with a partner of 8 months. I have heard it's very common to have sex less as a relationship goes on, but it sounds like it's more common for the girl to stop putting out like after marriage. Which I don't personally understand. In the past I've always been the one with the greater sex drive. I'm very lucky that now with my current bf, we have pretty much equal sex drives. It's fantabulous! I would definitly talk to your partner about it if you haven't yet. And if it's not enough for you, start initiating things. Randomly go down on him, wear some cute lingerie, you can shake things up :-)

[tankgirledward.livejournal.com]

one partner
Before I started having serous health problems we would screw like rabbits for about the first year we were together(almost everyday, sometimes twice) after the one year mark the sex became less frequent but so much better. Now that we have been together for three years and living togehter for the last 2 its more oral sex and snuggling than anything else.

[hey-animal.livejournal.com]

I'm in a long distance relationship - usually we see each other thursday night thru sunday night during the schoolyear but he is mostly living with me this summer (except when he's on tour for FOUR WEEKS, and again for THREE WEEKS and then recording for TWO WEEKS!). I think we've pretty much always had sex every other day or every three days, since I've always had problems with long-lasting soreness after sex, but now it seems like it's a lot longer between "congresses" because I have a guilt complex about it.

I'm really glad you asked this question, actually, because until now I never realized that we really aren't having less sex than we were a year ago. I think I'll probably always feel bad, though, that it just physically isn't possible for me to have/want sex more often.

[aphrael.livejournal.com]

Once or twice, with my fiance, absolutely, just don't feel like it (on my part). He has a very high sex drive, I used to, it went shite after taking the pill for 6 months, and never really came back to the dizzying heights it was before. Also, I'm working now, and wasn't before, so I'm more tired, there's stress about the wedding/honeymoon/money, and I've also put on weight, so I feel less attractive.

[heartgut.livejournal.com]

When I first got together with my s.o. I'd be down (and initiating) what would lead to PIV-sex... maybe three times a day when we had time. Then mutual busy-ness set in, moved to once a day, then a few times a week...then the relationship became long distance, and now its anywhere from 1-6 times a month, depending on how often we can visit.

[oi-polly.livejournal.com]

My fiance and I have been having sex for almost four years. We have sex around 4-6 times a month, depending. A year ago we weren't having as much sex because we had really busy lives, but that's not the case now.

[lakemi.livejournal.com]

initially in our relationship it was about 5 times a week but he ran into job and money troubles and got very depressed and wanted it less and it went down to about 2 times a week and sometimes not at all. It's tough but I also understand that he has a lot more on his mind now and I am sure that when he gets sorted out it will be better again

[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

I have sex about 4-10 times a month, with my boyfriend. We live an hour away and I only see him on the weekends. We've been together for 2+ years now and we definitely have less sex than we used to (up to 3 times a day sometimes), for a variety of reasons. 1) The NuvaRing seems to have somewhat decreased my sex drive, 2) stress and tiredness has somewhat decreased my sex drive, 3) we're more comfy with each other and don't always need to have sex all the time (though I would definitely prefer it if we did!), 4) I have chronic yeast problems and often can't have sex more than once or twice in a weekend. I wish we were having more sex, especially since he's going to be moving 1500 miles away for school in the fall and I'll be sunk for sex then... but that's just as much as my libido and body can handle right now, which pisses me off. :(

[miss-heni.livejournal.com]

Wellll, I have sex (some form of sex, anyway) pretty much every time I go to bed with my boyfriend. Which at the moment is most days, but when I'm away at college is 1 or 2 weekends a month. We've only been together since the start of April, though, so I'm sure it's a honeymood period thing.

[https://users.livejournal.com/---littlelotte/]

my bf is really busy so i'm lucky if we have sex 4 times a week. sometimes it's less, sometimes it's more. lately i've been sick of feeling like i was initiating it a lot, or "guilting" him into having sex (even though when i mentioned that, he says it's "all part of his plan" jokingly). i started not being very into it a week or so ago probably for those reasons, but now that's starting to change again, maybe because i stopped really initiating and let him do it... okay this is rambly, sorry! but we've been having sex since february... i would say we have more sex now, since we graduated college and have a little more time. i don't know, from everyone i've talked to it's completely normal for the number of times you have sex per month to dwindle down in a relationship for various reasons, but the bottom line is that if you're not happy with that, talk to your SO about shaking things up!

[https://users.livejournal.com/---littlelotte/]

oh and i'd like to add that before we had PIV, we fooled around for much longer periods/much more often than we have sex now. i kind of miss that.

additionally, we don't live together.

[oxygenwasteland.livejournal.com]

3 or 4 times a month with a boyfriend.
YES we are having less sex
Because he is 11 years older than me and has practically no sex drive anymore.

[chibisixxie.livejournal.com]

Sounds like my boyfriend as well, but he is 10 years younger than I.