1. If you're not inserting something, your vagina isn't, well, a rigid opening like into a bottle. The interior walls will squish together. So that indentation is probably the opening. Which doesn't mean that it might not be a very small opening!
2. I would start out expressing interest in a hymenotomy [essentially, surgical breaking of the hymen] -- at the very least, that's a nice, large, medical word which can get you started asking about such things. I would also suggest saying that your previous doctor would not discuss this matter with you, and that's a reason why you're not with that doctor anymore, if you don't get a good response from the first.
(Please don't feel humiliated. It's not your fault! I think it's very irresponsible of a doctor not to talk about parts of your body with you! If this one doesn't, either, trying to find another one might be a good idea -- but I hope this one will be more responsible and helpful.)
One way to get started is also to link your question to one of the answers to the standard doctor questions, such as, "How are you doing?" You can say, "Overall, okay, but I am really interested in a hymenotomy. I'd like to be able to try tampons some day." (Or something like that.)
Other tactics that might make it easier to discuss the matter could be writing it down ahead of time -- condense it into something that you can read in a few seconds, say. Then you have your script if your mind goes blank (as mine very well might at times!), and if you bring it along, you can even hand it to the doctor and say that you feel very shy about asking this, but the problem is one that concerns you greatly.
As for relaxation... I think some people take a bit of ibuprofen before going in.
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Date: 2007-06-04 06:58 pm (UTC)2. I would start out expressing interest in a hymenotomy [essentially, surgical breaking of the hymen] -- at the very least, that's a nice, large, medical word which can get you started asking about such things. I would also suggest saying that your previous doctor would not discuss this matter with you, and that's a reason why you're not with that doctor anymore, if you don't get a good response from the first.
(Please don't feel humiliated. It's not your fault! I think it's very irresponsible of a doctor not to talk about parts of your body with you! If this one doesn't, either, trying to find another one might be a good idea -- but I hope this one will be more responsible and helpful.)
One way to get started is also to link your question to one of the answers to the standard doctor questions, such as, "How are you doing?" You can say, "Overall, okay, but I am really interested in a hymenotomy. I'd like to be able to try tampons some day." (Or something like that.)
Other tactics that might make it easier to discuss the matter could be writing it down ahead of time -- condense it into something that you can read in a few seconds, say. Then you have your script if your mind goes blank (as mine very well might at times!), and if you bring it along, you can even hand it to the doctor and say that you feel very shy about asking this, but the problem is one that concerns you greatly.
As for relaxation... I think some people take a bit of ibuprofen before going in.
Good luck! I hope that some of that helps.