Sorry if I'm reading this incorrectly, but did you perhaps mean that if someone is abusing you (generally speaking, not you specifically), you have the option to fight back? I'm kind of wondering because, as someone who's been in an abusive relationship, I feel kind of uncomfortable about the idea of having an obligation to fight back. For one reason, it took me a long time to accept that my then-boyfriend was the one who created the situation; I did feel like I needed to keep myself as safe as possible, but he was the one who had the obligation not to abuse. For another, fighting back may always be the best course of action; there are times when it could escalate the situation and put a person into physical danger.
Of course, I understand that I'm bringing my own reactions to this and that the OP didn't classify her relationship as abusive. I mean, this particular event doesn't sound good, but it may or may not be characteristic of her relationship as a whole. And that may also factor in to how she chooses to respond. :)
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Date: 2007-05-17 04:26 pm (UTC)Of course, I understand that I'm bringing my own reactions to this and that the OP didn't classify her relationship as abusive. I mean, this particular event doesn't sound good, but it may or may not be characteristic of her relationship as a whole. And that may also factor in to how she chooses to respond. :)