Bleeding after orgasm? Also, whine/rant about frustration.

[jenni-the-odd.livejournal.com]

Okay, so I went years without an orgasm. Can't do it on my own. Partners have never been able to manage it, either. Only times have been when I used a vibrator. I've pretty much come to terms with the idea that sex is not likely to ever feel anything but 'nice', fine, whatever. After spending a lot of time debating due to thin walls and a family with no sense of privacy, I broke down and bought a vibrator.
The problem is, every single time I used it, I bled afterwards for at least two days. And I mean medium-to-heavy period-type bleeding, often accompanied by vaguely period-like symptoms (usually tender breasts, cramps). This is without any sort of penetration. Other background info includes: I have PCOS. For me, this means a lot of bleeding. I was just unaware that orgasms would trigger it, and while I am fairly sure it does not mean I am going to die, I would like some reassurance that it is not so out of the ordinary. Or, better yet, that it will stop happening. The PCOS is being managed with Metformin, which has done exactly nothing to regulate my cycle, and the last time I tried any sort of hormones, they made me crazy and also did absolutely nothing to control the bleeding.

So question: Has anyone else experienced several days of bleeding as a result of orgasm every time they have one? I have a gyno appointment for other things soon, and I will probably try to bring it up. Just wanted to get some sort of feedback from other people.

This whole thing is incredibly frustrating. Using the vibrator (which died after five or six uses. Serves me right for getting a cheap one) provided orgasms that ranged from mediocre to downright depressing, and those took hours of effort. I've begun to come to terms with the idea that the best sex may ever feel is 'nice', but now it feels like my body is actively punishing me. I've thought of myself as a sexual person since I had the vaguest notion of the existence of sex... but now it's as though my body is going out of it's way to shut that part of me down. I've tried to approach this with an open mind and an optimistic attitude, both with partners and alone, not expecting or focused on or worried about an orgasm as the 'finish line' to any sexual activity, but dammit, I'm ready to give up.
I don't want to spend the bedroom aspect of every relationship getting my partner off and reaching a point where they don't even try to return the favor and I don't ask, because we both know it'll just end in a sore tongue/fingers/whatever on their part, and reassurances from me that "it's okay, really."
And now, this is what I have to look forward to. Even if I DO get off, I get to pay for it for the next few days.

... Sorry for the ranting/whining. I suspect I'm just cranky because (surprise!) I'm on my period again (day 14, woo), and severe moodiness is pretty much par for the course.

Comments

[tornattheelbo.livejournal.com]

you should post this to the pcos community, you might get some more feedback there...

it sounds like you're struggling with hormonal imbalance, but you'd have to have blood testing to find out what exactly needs to be done about it.

[starzysky.livejournal.com]

I have blown out my favorite type of vibrator TWICE- and only while I was buying the THIRD one did the clerk tell me this: use dollar store batteries! The motor for a vibrator is so small that anything more than that will cause it to burn out a lot faster.

Regarding your bleeding - my hypotheses are:
1) sensitive cervix (easily scratched/irritated, causing bleeding after it's bumped during masturbation/sex)
2) I don't know a lot about PCOS, but perhaps something about the condition causes your uterine lining to be shed easily? When you have an orgasm, your uterus contracts kinda like it does during your period ("cramps") - so maybe those contractions force a little bit of the lining out, causing the bleeding.
3) I don't know your risk-situation here, but bleeding after sex & at weird times during your cycle can be a sign of chlamydia, so get checked for that if you think it could be the case.

Good luck!

[supergroveraway.livejournal.com]

I also have PCOS. I didnt get a period for months, sometimes a year at a time... and then I started getting it for a few days at a time with a 3 day break in between. Occasionally it would go away for months, then come back every other week or two. Add the feeling awful and weight gain and I was having one hell of a party lol. Sometimes it felt like nothing was going on, other times it was period symptoms/illness/major-nausea times 10! I never cramped when I was a young teen and regular, now every so often I might have a sharp stabbing cramp and thats it.

Im extremely hestitant about going on any hormone meds, Im hormonal enough!! Ive asked about Metformin after reading a few medical studies and always get a "not neccesary" answer. Diabetes runs rampant in my family, and with the drastic weight gain I fear its inevitable. I figured Metformin would be a good choice; its been toted as the miracle cure. I never really knew its success rate in other girls though, now Im a bit bummed lol.

Recently I started bleeding after orgasm,(after both penetration and non). A few times it happened simply after being aroused a tiny bit, that was damn annoying.
Ive never heard of anyone else having the same problem. I feel a little better now after reading your post.
I haven't been back to the obgyn for a while... mostly because of the high bills I am still paying from diagnosing the PCOS issue. There is also that part of me that is tired of doctors not believing/listening to me, ordering countless unneccesary tests and referrals to other doctors who are just as clueless. Ive found a great doctor, but there is still the same issue.

I'd be very interested in any info you find out about this. Its unfortunate, but Im glad to know Im not the only one... Good Luck!!!